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this really sucks. she's with someone else and says that maybe one day we can try again but not now. i'm in pieces trying to move on. i really thought things were going better than for a long time between us, but...

i am afraid that i'll never find someone i connect with as deeply as her. she was my first and only love and i'm truly heartbroken. will it ever be ok again? does anyone know any good coping strategies or ways to deal with this?

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[–] lil_tank@hexbear.net 3 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

does anyone know any good coping strategies or ways to deal with this?

Writing exactly how I feel and what I think helped me a lot when I went through sentimental hardships. Find whatever style suits you, I usually do "rambling" style prose but some people like to write poetry and songs or well-worded essays. Whatever you find the least uncomfortable (it's going to feel uncomfortable but it's worth it).

When you're done with your writing session and have no ideas left you go back to whatever you were doing, and if you find yourself ruminating about it again you start writing asap. The goal is to never lose yourself in your thoughts because your thoughts can echo endlessly in your mind while on paper everything that you already wrote is not worth repeating