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I know it seems harsh but I really feel that the best solution in the short term is to cut contact. like you said, the hardest part really is getting used to your life without another person in it, but that is always going to be difficult whilst you are still in close proximity to them. this isn't to say that you should be hostile or block them absolutely everywhere, but politely say that you will take some time for your own space, and perhaps block them on the most common apps that you message them from.
whilst I've not experienced 4 years myself, I know that it could be incredibly difficult to have what feels like your entire life upside down in those early days. it does get better, and I know that because every person I've ever seen in a similar situation ends up so much happier in the long run. take each day as it comes, there are weeks where decades happen.