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this really sucks. she's with someone else and says that maybe one day we can try again but not now. i'm in pieces trying to move on. i really thought things were going better than for a long time between us, but...

i am afraid that i'll never find someone i connect with as deeply as her. she was my first and only love and i'm truly heartbroken. will it ever be ok again? does anyone know any good coping strategies or ways to deal with this?

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[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 24 points 4 months ago

to be honest, her getting with someone who sounds like it IS a coping strategy. everyone i know who's ever done that did that bc they were uncomfortable with the idea of being single. so don't look at that and go "why can't i get over it that fast", because no one gets over relationships that fast, healthily

just take it slow. you'll be okay eventually. it took me a year to get over my last relationship (partially bc it was abusive), and i still have moments when i'm upset thinking about it. but eventually you'll realize you don't think about it that much, and you can be happy on your own