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It will keep hurting for quite some time, I'm sorry to say. Feel it, and be sad. There's no use in trying to rush through it. Your mind and your body know when they're done grieving your loss, and they'll let you know when they're "done". Take deep breaths, go for walks and think about it, but also find things to do with other people, pursue hobbies etc. Finding the balance between distractions and working through it is hard, and it takes time to balance it in a way that helps you. For some people it works better when they have more time to think, for others it's better when they distract themselves. As a general tip, try not to go for full distraction or full contemplation, it doesn't help you.
I'm sorry this sounds so clinical, I hope it helps you still. Take care, comrade, you got this. We're here to listen whenever you need it