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How can you actively prevent it from getting worse—like starting now/today?

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[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

There ain't a whole hell of a lot I can do to change my present situation. Believe me, i'd love nothing more. At the end of the day, it comes down to money and time of which I don't have much of either. I genuinely believe if I could live and work in the city and make enough to get by and then some, the vast majority of my problems would be solved. Unfortunately for me, I live in the middle of bumfuck nowhere.

As for your second point, assuming I understand it correctly; The only positive relationships I've been able to maintain are that of my sisters. I try to be honest and genuine with others but they either don't vibe with me or they try to take advantage of me. I get discouraged with trying. I had to end my first serious friendship because she kept trying to use me and if I objected to her she'd just pressure me more and try to make me feel bad. I have trust issues as a result of that experience. I asked out a woman I really felt a connection with and she told me she liked me too, then she found out I don't have a drivers license and told me she wanted to be friends. I honestly can't say I blame her.

If you have all the answers, what should I do? Therapy? Been there, done that. I went to therapy for years before my therapist terminated because she felt there wasn't anything more she could do. By the way, that question was rhetorical.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Set goals and meet them. If you need more time or money, then start working towards that and achieve it. Invest in yourself.

Stop making excuses and being miserable. Because all you've done to me is whine for three paragraphs about how helpless you are. Time to grow up buttercup, the only person who is ever going to 'rescue' you is yourself.