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Yeah, no, I just made a bunch of assumptions and didn’t clarify them.
I was imagining OPs neighbors gave them a bunch of stuff as a housewarming/welcome to the neighborhood/we’ve got a bunch of cucumbers this year thing. Buying it from their farmstand is totally different and I could even imagine OP chatting to them about how to can pickles in a friendly way.
But if I’d given someone home canned pickles and they decided that paying for cucumbers and taking the time to can them was better than accepting mine for free, I would probably worry about how I’d fucked them up. Like, I would definitely not be mad (though I can see a personality type who would), I’d just feel rejected.
Of course, if they’re just super into canning, that’s one thing, but then I’d probably just invite them over to do it together.
Oh yeah, definitely. And no worries, as soon as I heard Amish, I'd assumed they bought them. The Amish have two or three little enclaves where they interact with the "secular world" and trade goods and serbices so that's where my mind instantly went.