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Agreed. I've often referred to it when talking to my friend group as "emptying the bucket". Everyone has things they think or feel that are "NOT OK©". And for the most part we realize that these things aren't to be mentioned in polite society as it would do fuck all to help any situation. So we add those drops of venom to the bucket. And we fill, and fill, and fill, and fill until we either find an outlet to empty it or it spills over and becomes an unhinged rant on some form of social media or a public freak out.
Private conversation with friends is supposed to be where you can empty the bucket without it harming others or, usually, getting you in trouble. It's supposed to be between you and the other person. Not something the other person is stockpiling for the day they need to cancel you.
And I want people to have places or people they can empty the bucket with. I want people to be able to get all the venom out and then go be a person who functions in the social systems we have in place.