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I picked world bc I was told it would have the most activity. Since joining Lemmy I have been repeatedly harassed by men on this instance, threatened with murder and rape by users including open Nazis (this was also happening on Reddit), and permabanned for being a woman, for being a feminist, and for not breaking any rules and posting factual news sources. Would like a better instance.

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[โ€“] eugenevdebs@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah she seems a little off. I think she posts a little oddly but I don't think she's bad because she's a woman. I think she's a bit stressed out lately, and understandably so.

[โ€“] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 0 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 53 minutes ago)

Self defense isn't being "off."

Being angry isn't being "off."

These are reasonable reactions.

You are promoting the idea of hysteria. This is offensive.

Would you like me to find all the comments I was responding to? The ones that promote pedophilia, rape, and subjugation of women? How exactly is the normal way to respond to that? Tell me, oh men, how you want to police my emotions. If only I could be a perfect victim like you.

Maybe just post the responses you write to the rape threats you get. Since obviously misogyny on here isn't real, so the rape threats are something everyone is getting, right? Not just me. So post yours and show me how I should be responding to these attacks which definitely are all in my head as being misogyny. Go ahead.

Do you think Francine Hughes was wrong for setting her abusive husband on fire? The courts found her to be reacting noncriminally to her abuse in a landmark case for women's rights in the 80s. Do you even know about that case? Or do you think women should ALL be quiet and just put up with abuse from men?

I used to think you might be cool because Eugene is cool. Not anymore. You've done quiet a bit of patriarchal enforcing here - this thread was about recommending an instance for me to move to, and you're spending your time here trying to police with others whether I've personally experienced misogyny on Lemmy - that was never the point of the thread in the first place, yet you all feel SUPER COMFORTABLE dismissing my own words, experiences, and what I want.. With no evidence except removed comments that show I'm upset at what is being said to me - not even the comment I am responding to. Why is that? It's like you're pushing a patriarchal narrative for the boys club. Shame on you. May the way you treat women come back on you tenfold.