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how good are you at lying during job interviews? (linux.community)

submitted 7 months ago by vestmoria@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3347155

and what would be the point of lying?

I applied to 2 positions and got one. On both counts I shadowed for a day and was sincere.

Job 1 offered me a position I took.

Why I think the second job rejected me: I was assigned to 2 coworkers who started prying inquisitively about my job experience and expectations. I told them I don't want to go back home with back or leg pain or feeling broken, I don't mind doing my pause after 7 hours of working and not 4 but I actually NEED my pause, one every day, I also told them I don't live to work but the other way round (this is nursing).

Apparently they told management all this because during my interview with the c suite they mentioned what other coworkers think about me.

I still believe if you need a job, please do lie because you need the money. I was sincere this time because a union member told me to clearly state what you want in the beginning, so there are no uncomfortable situations afterwards.

I'm also a terrible actor, so maybe this was for the better?

This makes me value authenticity even more because one of those suites, a woman, used the strategy of faking being close to you (smiles, modulating her voice...) so you believe she actually cares about you so you let your guard down.

even though I got the other job it still stings because I was rejected for being authentic. Am I wrong?

So, in the future, do I keep being authentic or do I feed management BS? Feeding them BS always worked in the past.

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[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I tell believable lies that cannot be easily checked, and when they can be I cover my bases to the best of my abilities. For example, I just started working in the UK and I moved here about three weeks ago and, just before my interview, I called a friend of mine and my ex boss (who's also a good friend of mine) and explained the lies I had put in my resume cause they were my references. The odds of them calling were almost nil but it doesn't hurt to plan ahead.

I don't like lying simply because I'm too proud of myself to hide who I am from the world and I just find it exhausting to do all the time, but I can do it when the time comes like in job interviews. I mean, I've been very competent at both of my previous jobs (I was in the army before and they didn't need references, just my passport, lol), so I trust I'll do well and not just ruin whatever company I'm working at, and don't see the harm in lying to work at this places I can function appropriately whilst zooted. It's not like I'm applying for a surgeon's job when I can barely tie my shoelaces!

But yeah, I understand how revealing facial expressions and overall body language can be and I can restrain myself competently, and I'm mentally agile. Also, both of my parents were lawyers (my mom's still alive and working cause if she doesn't move she dies, kinda like a shark, lol) and my dad was pretty abusive so it was ability I had to be good at, lol. 🤷