Asklemmy

I'm a trans woman. I've never been feminine. No one picked on me because I was "girly". No one secretly thought I was gay. My interests were geeky, but they were "boy" geeky.

I don't believe in gendered personalities. People have genders. Personalites don't.

it does seem like those with body dysphoria actually feel uncomfortable in their bodies, and want a different body

That's often a part of it, but it's not universal. There are many trans and gender diverse folk who don't experience things through this lens.

if there were no gender norms or societal expectations, would you still want to transition?

Yes, but it would look different. The social part of my transition was important to me, because it influences how people see me. It shapes whether they see me accurately, or see me as someone I am not. My appearance can cause them to stick me in the wrong gender box, and that is something that I needed to change.

But if we existed in a world where there were no gender boxes, where gender was as diverse as people themselves are, then my transition would have looked different. I'd still needed to have addressed the physical aspects of my body. But socially? If my birth name didn't automatically carry a gender with it, if my clothes and my presentation didn't automatically carry gender with them, then my social transition would have looked very different.