askchapo

i don't really get the issues most people have with being poly.

one barrier for me is that i'm not a swinger or a cuckold festishist and any partners of mine would have thousands of times the opportunity as me and given the level of interest i've received in life it would functionally amount to one of those unless we formed a closed n-cule, which is a kind of poly but not what people are usually talking about.

i already didn't get enough time with one partner because of work hours and stretching that time even further is a non-starter. comersion or whatever the fuck it's called wouldn't make up for me being home alone.

I'm not the sort of person to be interested in having more than one serious romantic relationship simultaneously myself, but I also don't really see people's problems with polyamory, and in theory, I wouldn't mind dating someone who's also seeing other people, as long as we're communicating about it. Tbh, I think there's a lot of things that make a lot of people uncomfortable, that to me, is just "Is everyone involved a consenting adult with full knowledge of the situation?" And if so, I simply can't see the problem. Like, my problem with cheating is the dishonesty, not the dating or fucking multiple people. My problem with a lot of "weird" relationship models or kinks is either nonexistent or only related to informed consent issues.

So yeah, I don't think that enforcing or promoting monogamy is something that a socialist state should be spending time and energy doing. The vanguard has more pressing social issues than who's fucking who. But, like you, I'm not sure to what degree normalising alternative models is feasible, because I do not understand people who are opposed to polyamory on a deeper level than my "I don't care if others do it, I'd have to have a talk with a partner who wants to do that, it wouldn't work for me personally to actively date multiple people" position on it.