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yea im basically the same. whenever someone explains their issues with poly to me im just like "? well yea ur idea of / how you're doing poly is inherently unhealthy of course it's gonna suck"
Yeah. I'm against unhealthy relationships, not relationship structures that defy the "nuclear family". But then, I'm not necessarily a family abolitionist who's against that structure, either. I don't care how any group of consenting adults choose to organise their sexual and family life and share the responsibility for any resulting children, as long as the relationship is healthy and any children are treated well and with respect. I would be equally upset with an unhealthy traditional Western nuclear family as with a poly situation that led to unhealthy behaviors between the adults involved or towards any children resulting. I also don't think Sarah's three moms and two dads and several partial siblings are any less of a valid family than Emma's one mom and one dad and little brother, and neither of those little girls should think of their family as abnormal.
Look, I probably need to actually read what Engels had to say about the family and the capitalist state, instead of just saying he was right.