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My solution was just to be around people. The mental spiral just stopped when I had company.
Also do know that the pain does end. I had just horrible feelings when my ex dumped me. I argued for hundreds of hours in my head with her, which obviously is pointless. Now, I couldn't put myself in that headspace if I tried. Your brain does move on. Just getting there is tough.
Echoing all these things. Also being around people, or at the very least talking with friends over text or whatever, has kept me from doing impulsive stuff that would have made situations worse when going through heartbreak. So doubly recommend not shutting down socially, as best you can.
Yeah seconding this. Occupy your mind until you have enough space to start moving on from it. Don't do what I did and isolate for years over a break up and self-medicate the pain away. It might sound trite, but in time you will move on, it's just right now you need help to get there.