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Where does this dissonance come from? I have lots of energy & initiative to care for others but struggle to care for myself. (hexbear.net)
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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/5550838

For example, this week I spent 6 hours helping a friend fix their roof & 0 fixing the leak in my roof. Most of the meals that I cooked were when I had company or going to a potluck. It takes me until the umpteenth 'let me just squish it down' and the flies start buzzing to take the trash out....

...It feels like if I were a stranger, I would take better care of myself than I do, if that makes sense?

In general, I feel like I am a very values- and care-driven person. Like what feels meaningful is taking care of my community and working towards the world I want to live in. I have a good reputation in my community & activist circles for consistent work and following through on what I commit to do....

...none of that seems to apply to myself! My dishes sit in the sink for days, and I usually only bathe in preparation for public events.

This will not do! How do I treat myself like I treat others? Ahhhh!

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[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 1 points 1 week ago

Lifehack: If you compost everything that's compostable, you'll never have flies in your trash.

I recommend one of those plastic coffee cans for storing compost, the biggest one you can find. Line it with napkins or paper bag so the gunk doesn't get stuck to it, and also to balance the C:N ratio.