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I do so much better in small groups then I do 1 on 1 and I hate it (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 week ago by BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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Just sucks wanting to/actually hanging out with someone 1 on 1 and there's silence and I worry they aren't having a good time with me. Then we bring another person in and everyone is talking a lot more and seem more comfortable. Why am I weird alone with people :/ tbh makes me very worried about dating or being in a relationship too. Even in a platonic friendship it makes me feel very anxious about what they think of me and our relationship. Like idk I like you I just don't have much to say but then suddenly do when there's more people?? I don't get it so how is anyone else going to

inb4 autism

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[–] AssortedBiscuits@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago

When I am in a group, I am quiet in an "I don't know when to enter the conversation" way.

When I am one on one, I am quiet in an "I am stiff and awkward and anxious" way.

The only time I'm not quiet is when I'm by myself, but it's in a "my vocal stims are making random noises and stitching lyrics and quotes that don't make sense together whatsoever."

It seems like the only form of verbal communication I truly understand is transmitting and receiving instructions.