Unpopular Opinion
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Rules:
1. NO POLITICS
Politics is everywhere. Let's make this about [general] and [lemmy] - specific topics, and keep politics out of it.
2. Be civil.
Disagreements happen, but that doesn’t provide the right to personally attack others. No racism/sexism/bigotry. Please also refrain from gatekeeping others' opinions.
3. No bots, spam or self-promotion.
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4. Shitposts and memes are allowed but...
Only until they prove to be a problem. They can and will be removed at moderator discretion.
5. No trolling.
This shouldn't need an explanation. If your post or comment is made just to get a rise with no real value, it will be removed. You do this too often, you will get a vacation to touch grass, away from this community for 1 or more days. Repeat offenses will result in a perma-ban.
6. Defend your opinion
This is a bit of a mix of rules 4 and 5 to help foster higher quality posts. You are expected to defend your unpopular opinion in the post body. We don't expect a whole manifesto (please, no manifestos), but you should at least provide some details as to why you hold the position you do.
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No offense, but there is a point at which others aren't at fault and the behavior you're asking of them is ridiculous.
I'm a gay man. If I said to you, "my boyfriend has bareback anal sex with me and cums in my ass" at work, would you find it work-appropriate? Please answer.
False equivalency, obviously.
That being said your mindset is literally the mindset the homophobes have... Hearing the words "gay couple" means having to think about homosexuals and causes them discomfort and they want it gone. You literally just identifying as a gay man makes them think of exactly what you typed out there.
False equivalency here, gay bro. Words mean things. Your original example was a euphemism, not graphic detail. Then you equated it with graphic detail, not euphemism. Most of the time, when people say they're "trying for a baby" (sorry, was that too graphic for you?) the meaning is more than "We're having vaginal sex." it's also "We're being intentional, have discussed it together, decided we both want it, and are excited about being parents." Furthermore, there is a possibility that this couple has struggled to have kids for vairous reasons, and are still determined. Maybe go have more gay sex and let your orgasms calm you down, gay bro.
They aren't saying that, though. It's the equivalent of you saying "my boyfriend and I are going on a cruise."
What do I even reply to this?
Me personally and genuinely, would reply with "ok." or "cool." and that would be it.
"I'm a gay man" might already elicit the image you paint in some people.
So not that different.
Your example was "we're trying for a baby", not literally your first sentence in your post.
You are also able to use the euphemism. A queer couple can say "we are trying for a baby" to refer to the process of adopting or ivf or anything like that.
Hell, the hetero couple could be in that position where unassisted pregnancy isn't viable and are looking for the same alternatives.
We also use "I'm trying for a baby" as a euphemism for sex. In fact, my favorite euphemism is "just dropping the kids off at the pool"
"not trying for a baby, just through the motions."