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What was the biggest pill you've had to swallow about your own self or habits? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 day ago by NomenCumLitteris@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'll go first...after 10 years of speculating in the market (read: gambling in high risk assets) I realized I shouldn't ever touch a brokerage account in my lifetime. A monkey would have made better choices than I did. Greed has altered the course of life many times over. I am at an age where I may recover from my actions over the decades, but it has taken its toll. I am frugal and have a good head on me, but having such impulsivity in financial instruments was not how I envisioned my adulthood. Its a bitter pill to swallow, since money is livelihood of my family, but I need to "invest" all I have into relationships, meaningful moments, and fulfilling hobbies.

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[–] Grumpyleb@lemmus.org 10 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

Alcohol isn't everyone's friend, I was an alcoholic at 18, and refused to acknowlege that fact and kept denying it in the face of all the evidence. When I finally asked for help and quit drinking at 45, I realised how much of a mess I'd made of my life. Thankfully I've been sober since (going on 7 years now). Addiction is not a joke people.

[–] UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

Good for you, brother! Stay strong. I've stayed drug-free/alcohol free my entire life, but only because I've watched loved ones go thru addiction, so I realize how tough it is. The fact that you got out of it after so long, is a major accomplishment. Good on ya, mate.

Addiction is not a joke people.

This is why I hate to see how casual Lemmy is about drugs and alcohol. Some actually brag about posing while high or drunk--and then get a shitton of upvotes for it. They don't realize how quick it happens. and how addiction doesn't care who you are. It can happen to anyone.

[–] Grumpyleb@lemmus.org 1 points 2 hours ago

Thank you brother 🙏

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 4 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Same, although I'm shy about the alcoholic label. But the fact is I was sadder and less motivated, even when I managed to drink "moderately," and I feel better in every conceivable way since I stopped. I feel like I can trust myself to handle things straight-on now.

[–] Grumpyleb@lemmus.org 4 points 8 hours ago

Honestly I understand what you mean, for me it was the opposite, my family and close friends had been telling me about my abuse for decades. So when I finally admitted I owned the word Alcoholic. I'm a happily recovering one. Good on you for managing!