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Hi everyone! That's right, it's time for another c/disabled megathread.

Update on the meds: they work! Quite well, actually. I feel like I'm finally functioning at a reasonable level, like I was not only getting stuff done, but I'm now able to actually effectively multitask (as much as one can lol). I'm quite happy with how it's working, and I might not even need an SSRI at this point. If I'm getting anxiety from the meds, I'm not feeling it, because they actually reduced the amount of anxiety I have to deal with. I don't know how (thinking ADHD-induced anxiety), but yeah, I'm a lot better than I was just last week. Quite happy for that, might actually be able to manage the end of the semester without crashing and burning this time around.


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[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 9 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Just the usual bs you'd find in most religious folk's homes, nothing worth repeating. It leaves me grossed out how hypocritical they are, though. Makes me want to spread love and comradery even more to counteract it, ya know?

[–] mendiCAN@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I just talked with my friend yesterday about her religious trauma with her born-again parents and i can't decide if i want to smash their faces or the focus-on-the-family fucker whose instructions they were following more. Smash smash smash smash

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago

Smashing's good. I'll join you

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I remember when I was a carer for the elderly there was this one devout Christian woman whose granddaughter married a trans woman. This elderly woman never stopped insulting the pair of them for it. And multiple of the old people went to church, acted all holy and then were extremely racist and homophobic the rest of the time.

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Sounds about right, good grief. I'm the type to talk back to people like that, so I'm not usually the target anymore. I'll start windmilling a mfker for talking about others in front of me. It's the passive aggressive stuff that gets mumbled and added into conversations that got me this time. Subtle hatred is a lot more difficult to address since it's layered.

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I once had a black girl working as a carer with me and the elderly called her awful names and once she got so angry about it she threw a glass of orange juice over one old woman. The girl got fired. sadness It's so unfair, the elderly just get away with it because they're supposedly confused.

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That's so fucked up. Endless OJ on that woman in hell if it exists... Honestly that job sounds pretty awful just for dealing with the people alone.

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It was difficult and could be miserable... but nowhere near as miserable as being unemployed and fighting endless benefit claims.

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I hear you. You holdin up okay?

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No. I'm wondering if I should go to hospital about my achilles tendon, last time this happened they put me in a plaster cast. But I have my foot surgery tomorrow. I don't know if I can cope with one leg in a plaster cast and both feet needing daily bandage changes. How would I even shower like that? I don't know what to do.

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 3 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago)

I'm so sorry, love. cuddle

It does seem like maybe trying to get seen by a doctor for it would be the best route if it's causing you such pain, but I know that's a crap-shoot with the way the system is set up where you're at. Do you think they'd wait to cast your tendon until your surgery sites heal? Maybe having time in between would make it easier to deal with, rather than all at once. I've helped someone who had to wrap their entire leg in a trash bag, sealed with surgical tape, every time they had to shower/bathe while they were stuck in a cast for an injury, also had to tape saran wrap/cling wrap around a port which was time-consuming but kept the area dry (which we would sponge-clean after), dunno if that would be doable for your particular situation. I'm not the best for advice, so I apologize if I'm not helping.