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[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 13 points 10 months ago (3 children)

Because nobody wants men to be emotional. When I started opening up is when my marriage started falling apart lol

[–] arin@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yeah happens even before marriage.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 8 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Yeah I ain't ever showing emotions again except to a paid professional lmao.

Most women want someone very emotionally stable

[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Lol maybe talk to nicer women?

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca -1 points 10 months ago (2 children)

It's not a "niceness" thing it's instinctual

[–] HK65@sopuli.xyz 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I just want to butt in that while the meme is stupid, most women are not awful either.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

No of course they aren't. Who said they are?

I'm saying women are put off my emotional instability aka "showing your feelings"

[–] Monkyhands@feddit.dk 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Women aren't a monolith, just as men aren't. There are women who will appreciate your emotional openness, especially if you are able to regulate and communicate those emotions in a healthy way.

Edit to add: my relationship to my husband has only grown deeper as he has learnt to better access and express his emotions. In particular, he is working on accessing emotions other than anger, and this has really helped us grow our connection.

[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 0 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Why? Women want stability and protection usually

[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 0 points 10 months ago (1 children)

What does that have to do with opening up?

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 0 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

You aren't connecting any kind of dots I can see. Maybe be more specific? Either way, it doesn't seem like you are basing your idea on real life. I've known plenty of women just looking for a nice guy, either you aren't actually putting yourself out there and are believing incel propaganda, OR you have had a few bad experiences that also aren't a representation of reality, just those few individuals.

Edit: grammar

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Well it's a good way to befriend women but it's going to make them not have sex with you, in my experience, lol

[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Maybe you waited too long so they lost interest, or they weren't interested to begin with, or you need to work on yourself, or you need to try again ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 🤷🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️

I would suggest talking to a therapist instead of digging your hole deeper.

Good luck though. I wish you all the pussy in the world, assuming you're treating women right

Edit: clarification

[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

What is a good way to befriend women? I didn't suggest any action in the comment you're replying to, I merely speculated about why you're mistaken.

[–] BowtiesAreCool@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

You’d be surprised

[–] SparroHawc@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

If opening up is what caused the marriage to fall apart, it was built on a broken foundation and was doomed from the start. You're only finding out now because emotional unavailability hides that sort of thing.

[–] diffusive@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Yeah as I said… emotional education should not be only for boys.

Sorry mate (or congratulation… depending from the context 🙂)