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[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Because nobody wants men to be emotional. When I started opening up is when my marriage started falling apart lol

[–] arin@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah happens even before marriage.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah I ain't ever showing emotions again except to a paid professional lmao.

Most women want someone very emotionally stable

[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Lol maybe talk to nicer women?

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca -1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It's not a "niceness" thing it's instinctual

[–] HK65@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I just want to butt in that while the meme is stupid, most women are not awful either.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

No of course they aren't. Who said they are?

I'm saying women are put off my emotional instability aka "showing your feelings"

[–] Monkyhands@feddit.dk 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Women aren't a monolith, just as men aren't. There are women who will appreciate your emotional openness, especially if you are able to regulate and communicate those emotions in a healthy way.

Edit to add: my relationship to my husband has only grown deeper as he has learnt to better access and express his emotions. In particular, he is working on accessing emotions other than anger, and this has really helped us grow our connection.

[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Why? Women want stability and protection usually

[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What does that have to do with opening up?

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You aren't connecting any kind of dots I can see. Maybe be more specific? Either way, it doesn't seem like you are basing your idea on real life. I've known plenty of women just looking for a nice guy, either you aren't actually putting yourself out there and are believing incel propaganda, OR you have had a few bad experiences that also aren't a representation of reality, just those few individuals.

Edit: grammar

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Well it's a good way to befriend women but it's going to make them not have sex with you, in my experience, lol

[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

What is a good way to befriend women? I didn't suggest any action in the comment you're replying to, I merely speculated about why you're mistaken.

[–] CaptnNMorgan@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Maybe you waited too long so they lost interest, or they weren't interested to begin with, or you need to work on yourself, or you need to try again ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 🤷🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️

I would suggest talking to a therapist instead of digging your hole deeper.

Good luck though. I wish you all the pussy in the world, assuming you're treating women right

Edit: clarification

[–] BowtiesAreCool@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

You’d be surprised

[–] SparroHawc@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

If opening up is what caused the marriage to fall apart, it was built on a broken foundation and was doomed from the start. You're only finding out now because emotional unavailability hides that sort of thing.

[–] diffusive@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah as I said… emotional education should not be only for boys.

Sorry mate (or congratulation… depending from the context 🙂)