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Frankly? Good.
I hate to be the asshole, but if someone is either that stupid, or that unwilling to put in even the most basic effort, I don't want them here.
My mom signed herself up for lemmy. In her early seventies, kinda ignorant of tech stuff, and did it all on her lonesome. So did my 12 year old niece. So did my cousin with Downs.
Yeah, a kid with downs syndrome could manage to sign up for lemmy. Didn't need any help beyond "hey, hairball, which lemmy?". That's it. Just wanted to know what instance he should pick.
But he sure as fuck got logged in just fine.
So, when I see these people on reddit that can't be bothered to do what you would do on any website that you have trouble logging into, I'm perfectly fine with them not being here. They aren't going to be bringing anything useful with them at all.
The fact that this trash comment got 60 up votes IS the main issue.
A large group of Lemmy actively wants to stay a elitist circle jerk...
This is going to be a big problem because like it or not, it is the large group of "laugh and upvote" people who make platforms successful, the ones who never create content or have strict dedication, yet still influence the platform by way of voting patterns and occasional comments.
Without these people the platform ends up being emptier, and less people will want to create content when they get less attention. So the elitist attitude that "They need to be dedicated to join, fill out the application to determine your worthiness" ends up hurting the Fediverse much more than it helps it.
TIL that expecting a tiny slither of effort from participants is "elitist"
This was more celebrating that a problematic email server was preventing new users from signing up.
Assuming it's because the user is stupid or lazy, that's the elitist part.
I tried to make a sh.itjust.works account earlier today as a backup, when I verified the email I couldn't login, it told me my details were incorrect, the details I'd just saved in my browser from the account creation process. Shit does not just work.
I mean I'll get around to making another account on another instance, but sh.itjust.works has account creation issues. The people acting elitist about it are fucken gronks because they haven't actually experienced the issue.
Hey there,
Sorry you've had issues.
If you can PM me your email I can take care of it.
I'm also on Matrix, which might be ideal as lemmy PMs aren't exactly secure (they can be read by your local admin as well as the remote admin, so mihht not bmuch of a problem in this case, but still)
Can you check by user name? Same u/n, your instance.
Your email was already verfied in the database, but if you follow that link again lemmy just tells you it failed instead of telling you it's already verified.
You should be able to just login.
If not let me know.
Worst case it might need a password reset.
We did test new signups again this morning and it worked.
I went through the pw reset process, set a new pw and it let me login. Thx
Give that link a try again otherwise as @InEnduringGrowStrong@sh.itjust.works mentioned send us a PM with your account and we'll manually verify it.
Thanks
Database query says it's already verified
Dunno about the person I was replying to, but I was assuming they were lazy. And potentially stupid, but mostly the laziness was the critique.
"Oh no, I clicked the button and it didn't do what I thought it would. Oh well, I give up! My time is too precious to try any sort of critical thinking. I'll just post on reddit instead. Updoots to the left, thanks for the gold kind stranger. Dopamine boost achieved."
Okay, I updated my previous comment to "stupid or lazy" instead of just stupid so it more accurately applies your bunk assumption.
Assuming it's worth troubleshooting a broken just to interact with your salty comments calling people lazy because an email server isn't working is shitty and elitist, regardless of whether you want to hear that.
There's a lot of reasons to not use reddit, but the signup process is one of the first interactions users have with a site. Right now, reddit has a smoother experience than lemmy in that specific regard, and it's better to acknowledge than pretend otherwise.
The instance admin is literally in this thread acknowledging that their mail server is having issues. Doesn't matter how much effort the users put in if the verification email never goes through.
Seeing that someone is having trouble signing up, and jumping to the conclusion that it's the user's fault, might not even be elitist, just dumb.
I have many people in my disability support groups I recommended lemmy too and they were unable to use it.
(Our disability comes with severe cognitive problems and reduced energy, and trying to sign up was too much)
Well, ngl, my disability/chronic pain support group doesn't run high to cognitive troubles. There's some, but it isn't a majority.
That being said, the only questions I've had are where about which version of a community to use. Like how there's a handful of C/s for a topic, which ones are worth using. Even the MS folks with significant brain fog haven't expressed any issues getting started.
But it may be a thing where some cognitive issues are more likely to have trouble with the signup process than others, I dunno.
Our disease has quite a bit less functioning than MS as measured on bell spectrum.
And one of the main symptoms are cognitive processing issues. It’s to the point where some more severe folk can struggle putting sentences together.
Would you believe I just now noticed your user name?
Makes total sense now. I've known a few people dealing with it, and yeah, it would definitely be an impediment to run into delays and hassles signing up for anything. Hell, breathing can be a barrier with ME/CFS.
Wow, rare to run into someone ME aware in the wild. Thanks for understanding ❤️
I just wish everyone could understand. It's one of those "invisible" disabilities that catches a lot of flak.
I'm not sure, I've met some lovely people whose technical incompetence is nothing short of incredible. And if you try signing up for an instance you've been recommended and the sign-up process is broken, I understand that it can be disheartening.
Sure, Reddit is full of bad actors who just want to discredit alternatives, and clearly these people are not trying hard and they probably don't completely understand what Lemmy is, but I think it's still worth listening to their concerns.
At this point I'm willing to believe your mother and cousin with downs are both more likely to figure things out than the average 20-something, for the simple reason that they are not used to everything being so goddamn easy and not offering the slightest resistance. When you see the discourse on Reddit, a lot of people seem to be unaware of the difference between platforms and apps. Which shouldn't be a problem, if they can contribute to a meaningful discussion about whatever they do have an interest in.
Agreed
This is wrong and bad and not the way. It should be easy. The entire Fediverse should be the easiest to use, not the hardest.
I'm not sure how a subjective opinion can be wrong, but whatever.
It is easy to use.
Seriously, the only difficulty is in being patient. That's it. It takes some instances longer to approve an account than others, which can mean it'll be a big longer after that before you can log in.
Like, I just made an alt account for this user name recently took overnight to be able to log in. No weird crap, just patience. I've had to wait longer on independent forums for hobbies. Same experience with a recently made alt of my author user name, only it took maybe an hour before I could log in.
There's zero difficulty in the process that isn't also present everywhere online.
Lemmy is a community driven, usually small admin team network. Big whoop, a little delay. It isn't like you can't scroll passively while you wait. You have access to that much, and if someone has the sense to do that, then maybe they have the sense to pay attention to instance and community rules as well.
As someone who still uses these occasionally : It's much easier to use than Reddit, Facebook or Twitter without their privacy invading apps. Their browser experience is laughably bad on smartphones (especially Reddit which is barely functional, and that is not an exaggeration), Lemmy is buttery smooth by comparison, even if we take in consideration the occasional home instance/federation hiccups.
What a juvenile and elitist attitude. It's a fucking link aggregator, not a litmus test for someone's intelligence or value. Grow the fuck up.
Yeah I’m torn. I agree that the Lemmy onboarding process should be easier. But a BIG part of me also agrees with you. I hate the defeatist attitude people have -me being your average person with limited tech experience who was able to figure it out. I didn’t feel frustrated, I felt excited learning about Lemmy and its features, and the Fediverse as a whole.
Don’t care for people who complain about their situation then do nothing about it.
I don't see it as a defeatist attitude about their situation. It's more about how they heard lemmy is a viable alternative, so are checking it out. That first interaction is a test drive. If it's janky at all, it gives the impression that lemmy less smooth of an experience, so go back to the perceived superior site. Using the site that offers the smoother experience is what they're doing about their situation.
My bigest hurdle was choosing instance. I get paralyzed by not obvious choices.
I had the same problem. I just went with .world as the "default" and then spent some time learning about the different instances and moved to dbzero.
In all of it, I never had any problems.
Came here to say essentially the same thing. It's not that we don't want those people here, everyone is welcome, but it's a community effort.
It is a little disappointing, this person clearly had enough motivation to want to climb out of the walled garden, and this place exists specifically to be a home for such people. But I don't think we should be too upset or hard on ourselves. It was never going to work out. This person came here with a set of expectations that were never going to be met.
Their first instinct after coming across an issue was to throw the concept of Lemmy into a volcano and take to an external platform to act like we owe them a refund. If that tiny amount of jank is enough to send them into an indignant tailspin, this is definitely not a place where they would thrive.
Maybe they'll find the resilience to try again later when reddit bans them for even mentioning the word "lemmy".
That's the sort of gatekeeping that keeps a service as a tiny niche forever.
I would think that my comment makes it obvious, but I'm okay with that. Lemmy is working fine. Piefed and mbin interact with it seamlessly in most cases. Mastodon links up okay.
Niche is working. Not everything has to be market dominating
I'm sorry but this is one of the more terrible takes I've seen people barf out on lemmy an the fediverse as a whole, the idea that "gRoWTh iSN't iMPoRtaNt bECaUse LEmmY isN't a cOMpAnY". The fact is this is a stupid argument because being niche hurts a social media platform's ability to be a social media, it hinders the amount of interaction you can get, and it stifles more niche communities to the point they can't even get off the ground at all.
This whole thing about growth not being important is one of those Fediverse talking points that needs to be shot dead right here, right now.
Gatekeeping platforms and trying to keep out the "laugh and upvote" crowd is not helping anyone, it's hurting this platform, because people not getting interaction on their posts, or their communities being dead in the water because not enough if any people here are interested really kills motivation, and is likely part of the reason we saw a dip in Lemmy activity after the initial Reddit API exodus. Why do you want to gatekeep these people so much anyway? Most of them are only going to laugh, upvote, and consume content here, chances are you won't directly see most of them. Yet they are one of the more important parts of a social media platform since they give it life and energy and activity, that just wouldn't be anywhere near the same without them.
It's fine for memes, news, and politics...but it's still pretty lacking in a lot of the smaller and more unique content that made reddit worth visiting regularly.
As much as you're okay with it, there's plenty of people who would like to see federated services grow enough to be established mainstream alternatives. How much complaining has there been that Bluesky took off as as the trendy twitter alternative instead of Mastadon?
I don't understand the downvotes you got. The same people will complain when a profit driven reddit alternative springs up to take the mainstream while Lemmy remains niche because they wanted a kind of exclusive club. Being unfriendly to the user is a recipe for failure.
On the flip side, the biggest forum on the internet being shared, distributed and owned by its' users would be an incredible win.
I appreciate you.
There is a difference between someone keeping a gate, and someone not caring enough to learn how to open a latch on a gate.
The user from the post could have asked if anyone knew why it wasn't working, asked for help, tried a different instance, googled the reason why that might be occurring, tried a different browser, or any number of things, but instead they just hit the first speed bump and decided to get out of the car.
For that user to have been gate kept, they would have had to have asked a lemmy user for help, to which the lemmy user refused to help them. This did not happen. The only person remotely gate keeping that user is themselves.
The user did do this. That's what their comments are. The problem is that their comments were not seen by the appropriate people (the instance admins) before they got frustrated and gave up.
Hmmm, I don't see them asking for help there myself.
I see them making statements that they don't know how it works and that they tried once or twice, but not asking for help explicitly, because I don't think they wanted help as shown by how that conversation goes.
When someone actually starts asking them some questions, unprompted, to try troubleshooting, the user comes back with:
"I appreciate that but don’t bother. I tried with the instance listed in this post and still got the same login issues even after receiving the email to login and passing the security check etc. I deleted the app. I’ve tried enough times and never had any success so I won’t be trying again."
So the moment someone offered them help they did not ask for, they turned it down immediately.
Just find a different instance, right? Not that hard...
Correct.
https://join-lemmy.org/instances
Eternal September is the goal?
It's curious how so many people on this community about discussing the growth of the fediverse view the fediverse growing as a negative.
I want it to grow but I am fine with an idiot filter
Were you even alive when Eternal September happened?
I was born before the Reagan administration
That doesn't prove anything. You could have been 12 in 1993 if your we're born during the Carter administration leaving you in the same cohort those bitchless knobs were whinging about back then.
You asked if I was alive. Yes, I was.
Was I on Usenet? Nope, but my family were very early adopters of computer and internet technology 🤷🏻♀️