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I mean this as nice as possible: you can type up a mini essay about your feeling and situation in a semi normal fashion but you reply to your friends as if you want to express you dislike them or are trying to annoy them. What else is there to say? How many posts do you need to make?
Does this mean they don’t want to be my friend though?
Also, what was wrong with saying “I’M WATCHING. A MOVIE.”
That wasn’t too dry.
All Caps means yelling or huge frustration
Since you don’t see why this would be hurtful, this is extremely hurtful, your ostensibly friend is trying to talk to you and you send them an angry yelling text with extra periods that add extra weight, basically telling them to fuck off and not talk to you, and now that’s exactly what they are doing. You buy, earned this one. Yes, if I was your friend I would be expecting a sincere apology at this point
You need to do damage control. Being short in all caps to a friend trying to speak with you is rude. The only real move is to apologize.
this sounds like their question greatly offended you
You could have written "sorry, watching a movie right now" and then stop responding or reading messages they send you.
Hell, even if you remove the "sorry" part of the message. At a certain point, you need to take accountability for how you write messages, despite being in a bad place mentally at the moment. Maybe they were frustrating you by continuing to message you while you were busy (and it does sound like they had prior knowledge you were busy with a movie), but it also requires that you were continuing to engage with them despite being frustrating. Nothing was preventing you from simply not responding until the movie was over.