Asklemmy

On average, yeah.

But you gotta remember, there's a fresh wave of r/efugees coming in, and there was one not that long ago.

Lemmy is mostly people that left Reddit, rather than having been a separate culture of its own. So there's plenty of the same things that make reddit a difficult place to be.

Lemmy tends to be more forgiving overall, outside of the politically focused instances, and some of the more.... assertive belief systems that have communities and instances.

As others have already said, lemmy.ml is a dedicated leftist space, and it's hard left, even outright tankie at times (far left and authoritative). So you don't want to go there about politics, you won't have a good time.

Lemmy.world catches a lot of hell because some of the mods and admins are a tad whack, but the users are typically not going to fuck with you.

Sh.itjust.works is probably the closest in vibe to reddit, good and bad.

Those are still, iirc, the three biggest instances. So you'll have more users, which means the percentage of assholes in the human race equals those instances having higher numbers of assholes, but that really is the issue.

My advice to anyone new on lemmy is the same as it was for new reddit users. Hang back a while. Stay chill. Observe the culture of lemmy as a whole, and any community you want to participate in.

It is the internet though. People will say shit they'd never dare to in person. But I'd say there's less of it here than most forums. And, I also tend to see more compassion too