this is pretty much what i intended with my comment.
I spent most of my life with undiagnosed autism which i've now realized resulted in me experiencing quite a bit of trauma i never even realized was out of the norm, and i'm so utterly fucking sick of people latching on to features that are associated with privilege as if that somehow guarantees the person cannot have experienced bad things.

I've also as of late started realizing i'm not quite as straight as i thought i was, and how delayed that realization has been due to people assuming i'm straight and therefore a bit of an other in many leftist communities.

No, fuck this self-segregation, we're all people and the only grouping that matters is that between the proletariat and the bourgeois.

This is where i run out of brainpower a bit, but i'm gonna finish the comment and hope this makes some sense:
I think the idea of being privileged for a trait you didn't choose is itself reinforcing privilege, it makes people who are viewed as privileged think that's what they are and thus they can't have "unprivileged" traits, if everyone calls you a straight cis white man then you're not going to feel like you're allowed to explore yourself and realize that you're not really that straight, or you'd actually prefer to be a woman or not have a gender at all.

If we want an inclusive and just world, we have to remove barriers between people, we have to make everyone feel part of the same group so that we can work together instead of working against each other.