That shit is hard - especially if it's like the total opposite of what you heard growing up.

Oof ouch owie right in the childhood.

Yelled at for not doing it right, backhanded compliments/browbeating/guilt trips when I did do it right, and a long chain of doing things right not mattering at all in the face of a single misstep that didn't have to be some warning sign of an imminent monumental derailment but was always treated as such.

"So you want us to throw you a parade for doing what is expected of you?"

No. I want basic aknowledgement that I did it, with no strings attached. None of this "Wasn't that easier? See how easy that was? Maybe next time you'll just get it out of the way. Wow, it'd be so great if you did that all the time."

I just want you to say "Thanks for taking care of that" like a normal family would.