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Zoomer here, will go to concerts alone once every few months because I have pretentious taste in music + the one friend I have with very similar tastes is a little agoraphobic

Hell all 3 festivals I've been to have also been alone cause people flaking before a big fest is pretty common in general and happened to me all 3 times. Will sometimes try to meet people and hangout, sometimes not depending on what vibe I'm feeling

So many zoomers who find out I do this look at me so weird but like what, am I just not going to enjoy myself and do something I want just because I don't have somebody to go with?

I have a few friends that are 40+ and it sounds like they do stuff alone frequently. The ~30 year old friends aren't doing it a lot but they don't seem to have the same fear zoomers do either. I regularly run into 30+ yo ppl I know at an event there alone but never happens with zoomers

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[-] tactical_trans_karen@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

We tend to do things alone when we feel secure in ourselves and enjoy our own company. That's going to be highly individualistic, but there's going to be some cultural pieces too, COVID lockdowns threw a lot of people off. I'm an old, and I go grocery shopping by myself a lot of times so my partner and I don't have to make a whole big thing about it. But being l before I got married and at times since, I'll go and do social things alone, it can be intimidating and or feel like a power move. It can be a nice mix up for routine life things, give it a try! I think it comes more with age for a lot of people, you've been around long enough to stop caring what other people might think.

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