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I should give up on HRT Right (imgur.com)
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I’ve been on HRT for two years, why do I still look like a man, why do I still look like this, why is my dystphoria worse than ever. Why do I hate myself so much. Why haven’t I’ve been loved and snuggled. Im just so sad with everything honestly can’t sleep.

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[-] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 27 points 4 months ago

Girl, you do not see what everyone else sees. Your "dysphoria" is worse than ever because you feel like you don't live up to the brain worms beauty standards that all women have forced down our throats. You can be a bombshell and still not get loved or snuggled. Being ultra pretty won't bring that, but appreciating yourself will.

The biggest thing standing in the way of you getting the love you need is how unhappy you are. When I was a young adult, I thought I could never find a relationship because I was ugly as hell. Looking back at my boy appearance, I looked fine. Plenty of dudes who looked like that found the relationships that seemed so impossible at the time.

The reason I couldn't get one was because I hated myself. I had no confidence in how I carried myself as I thought I was the ugliest person on earth. Now that I've started to transition, I'm feeling so much better about my appearance. I still see problems that really bug me, especially my fat distribution and unsymmetrical face, but I know I'll never think I look perfect. I'll never see no problems, even if I improve those things.

The secret to feeling better about yourself is appreciating what things you can feel better about. You have cute hair, sweet eyes, fully lips, and adorable cheeks. You look like a woman, a sad woman, but not a man. People perceiving you as a man might have more to do with how they know you from the past than who you are now. Unless they see you in a dress with the most fem makeup imaginable, their perception of you just won't update. You're both overlaying a ghost on you rather than seeing the truth.

If I had to presume something that bothers you about your appearance, I'd guess it's having a bigger nose, which makes me really sad. So many women have noses like yours, it's just a beauty standard thing rather than a gendered thing. If you dislike how they look right now, try smiling. Everyone looks better when they smile or laugh, as they seem more approachable and friendly.

You're a pretty girl who I'd be more than willing to cuddle, holding and soothing, telling you that you're safe from the imaginary man you see in the mirror.

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