First I wanna say, good on you for fighting the good fight, for yourself and whomever you may be supporting, directly or otherwise.
Secondly I want to say that looking for a job just sucks anyway. Your doing good, keep at it.
Thirdly, I'm not sure about the field you are looking in, and I've been in a stable job for a little bit now, but when I was looking four years ago, in tech...SaaS / PaaS application support, it took me a year to land a gig...and all the interiews were fucking horrible...literally getting questions about my moral character / personal life choices. In fact, for my last round interview at my current gig, I was asked why I wasnt accepting responsibility for dropping a coding bootcamp and blaming it on a pregnant partner! Like wtf? So, yeah, capitalist scum pulling moral high ground shit. Listen-- just remeber this is what you are bringing your sword and shield against. Power to you! You doing good.
Lastly, I have lots of thoughts, and those thoughts on getting a job / being in a job, in this capitalist meat-grinder, would likely lead me to my own ranting...which I kind of have already...and not be very useful to you.
Distilled, I can say is:
1 part acceptance - accept that this is going to happen. (Sigh) it's a shitty reality, esp now. And it's not a reflection on you / your person.
1 part being proactive - use this as an exp to ask any screening questions that would be useful to vetting out someone doing this again, or you just getting the heads-up proactively.
1 part pretending like you hold all the cards / power - this has has helped me to run my job finding op from a place of calm and logic, and preservation of me / my values. Ofc, as much as you can in a capitalist meat-grinder designed to invoke moral depravity.
The biggest thing that has helped me is probably the last point, combined with very much treating the employer as if I'm hiring them. This is def not something that can be done in every situation...but if you can work from a place of fearless confidence, judging if the employer would suit you long term (like the whole you), it can go a long way in terms of social / life fit...like "would they be likely to respect X if it comes up in the future."
[NOTE: I was only able to use that strategy when I was single, and didnt have a kid. But on several occasions, I also had very limited money, was eating a meal a day, etc. Not every single time, but it's worked when I've been in semi-desparate conditions. Though...when I did have a kid, I also had a partner screaming at me for "not trying to get a job!" even though I was getting about 8 ~ 10 resumes out a day, and interviewing too...screamed at so much my MH tanked to the point where I misscheduled an interview for the first time in 15 years...all that to say, even if you do have mouths to feed, if you have a supportive partner, it's probably feasible to not just jump in any old job...YMMV.]
Anyway...hope you can take away something from this.
First I wanna say, good on you for fighting the good fight, for yourself and whomever you may be supporting, directly or otherwise.
Secondly I want to say that looking for a job just sucks anyway. Your doing good, keep at it.
Thirdly, I'm not sure about the field you are looking in, and I've been in a stable job for a little bit now, but when I was looking four years ago, in tech...SaaS / PaaS application support, it took me a year to land a gig...and all the interiews were fucking horrible...literally getting questions about my moral character / personal life choices. In fact, for my last round interview at my current gig, I was asked why I wasnt accepting responsibility for dropping a coding bootcamp and blaming it on a pregnant partner! Like wtf? So, yeah, capitalist scum pulling moral high ground shit. Listen-- just remeber this is what you are bringing your sword and shield against. Power to you! You doing good.
Lastly, I have lots of thoughts, and those thoughts on getting a job / being in a job, in this capitalist meat-grinder, would likely lead me to my own ranting...which I kind of have already...and not be very useful to you.
Distilled, I can say is:
1 part acceptance - accept that this is going to happen. (Sigh) it's a shitty reality, esp now. And it's not a reflection on you / your person.
1 part being proactive - use this as an exp to ask any screening questions that would be useful to vetting out someone doing this again, or you just getting the heads-up proactively.
1 part pretending like you hold all the cards / power - this has has helped me to run my job finding op from a place of calm and logic, and preservation of me / my values. Ofc, as much as you can in a capitalist meat-grinder designed to invoke moral depravity.
The biggest thing that has helped me is probably the last point, combined with very much treating the employer as if I'm hiring them. This is def not something that can be done in every situation...but if you can work from a place of fearless confidence, judging if the employer would suit you long term (like the whole you), it can go a long way in terms of social / life fit...like "would they be likely to respect X if it comes up in the future."
[NOTE: I was only able to use that strategy when I was single, and didnt have a kid. But on several occasions, I also had very limited money, was eating a meal a day, etc. Not every single time, but it's worked when I've been in semi-desparate conditions. Though...when I did have a kid, I also had a partner screaming at me for "not trying to get a job!" even though I was getting about 8 ~ 10 resumes out a day, and interviewing too...screamed at so much my MH tanked to the point where I misscheduled an interview for the first time in 15 years...all that to say, even if you do have mouths to feed, if you have a supportive partner, it's probably feasible to not just jump in any old job...YMMV.]
Anyway...hope you can take away something from this.
Hang in there.
Banging my own sword and shield for you.