Maybe not, but they are the one who keeps leaving me alone in their office for 15 minutes at a time to “go ask their manager” if our negotiations are ok and they are the one who pretends to settle on a price with me and then tries to hard-sell me on all sorts of useless addons. And at they end of the day they are the one that turns making a purchase into a 4-hour process.

Maybe if the alternative to building a horse barn in 1910 was building a garage that was so expensive only like 5% of the population could afford it.

the one that invented the language

frontier people who like to simplify pronunciations

Not only does this display a remarkable lack of awareness for how language works, but also fails to take into account the numerous varieties of British English that specifically avoid the “th” sound (“Whatchu fink, bruv?”). On the other hand, Mainstream American English does not.

AI will bring new jobs

I would not be surprised at all if “LLM Prompt Engineer” becomes an official job title in the near future.

“My wife was recycling jars so I yelled at her because she wasn’t recycling the jars.”

This obviously has nothing to do with recycling so we’re going to skip right over that weird red herring and cut to the real issue here.

Your friends laugh at you because, in your context, your wife’s recycled jars make it look like you can’t afford to throw away money for random junk at the store whenever you want. In your context, a person must display their financial success in order to be respected by their peers, and any behavior that is likely to be exhibited by people who are not as wealthy (such as cleverly reusing materials) will be viewed by your friends as an indication that you are less wealthy than you want them to believe you are. This is a horrible social context to find yourself in, and the pressure it puts on you has caused you to “lose your sh*t” at the woman you love over some jars. Just stop and let that sink in for a moment.

Now the question is, how did you end up in this headspace? Is this the general culture in your country? Is this the culture of your particular social circle? Is this a situation that exists only in your own mind? Whatever the case, it’s not a healthy way to live your life. You need to find a way to stop caring about how wealthy you look to others and focus on things that actually matter in life. Like your relationship with your wife, for example.

I think fundamentally most people would agree with that. The problem with communism though is that it’s not just a staple of the USSR. There is something on the order of 48 countries that have experienced state-sponsored communism in relatively recent times and it has never once succeeded in achieving these goals but tends to exacerbate poverty, class division, and government oppression of human rights, if not resulting in completely failed states.

Some will read this and assume I am advocating for capitalism. I am not. Asserting problems with communism does not imply capitalism is perfect or even good. But if we do choose to abandon capitalism, the wrong decision is to move to a system with a 100% failure rate of achieving its goals over dozens of historical attempts. As the meme suggests, many Eastern Europeans are old enough to have personal experience with those failures.

Where communism can work well is on a smaller, voluntary scale. When people choose to get together and establish their own rules for pooling resources, small communities can sometimes live quite satisfactorily this way. But no, if we are willing to call capitalism a failure based on its history we have to be honest enough to say the same thing about state-sponsored communism.

Yes. And Google engineers can easily get an engineering job anywhere else so they’ll be fine if they say no.

Yes and no. CEOs do have autonomy but in a case like Reddit they are also beholden to the Board of Directors. They make commitments/predictions/projections for the board all toward the ultimate end of working toward a high return on investment for the members of the board and other shareholders. The CEO is then responsible to make these things come true and has autonomy to do things as he sees fit. But if the board has enough power, in any case where they don’t like how the CEO is performing, they will eventually vote to remove him.

That one in the middle is sick

Once upon a time I got a job working at a swimming pool supply store. For a total of about 15 min during my very first shift I was in the main room putting price stickers on things and whatnot. For the remaining hours of my shift I was back in the chlorine room filling up chlorine tanks. Tbf the pool store was following regulations as far as I know. I had goggles and gloves and the room had a big ventilation fan and all that. But even still, I got chlorine all over my skin and clothes and was perpetually dehydrated from the fumes. Had to run to the water fountain like a million times. Afterwards I decided there was no way I was going to work with chlorine all day every day until it killed me so the next day I came in and asked the manager if there was any way I could do other work and not be in the chlorine room. He was like, “unfortunately that’s the job”. So I told him, “ok I understand. In that case I don’t think this is going to work out. Thanks for the opportunity though!” And I left after only one shift. Shortest job I ever had.

When I was in middle school in the mid ‘90s, the school library decided to go digital. They installed a bunch of computers with what they called “a boolean search system”. For the first time, you could search for a book by topic in the library and, after a bit of a wait bc computers were pretty slow back then, you’d get a list of results.

Well, us being kids, on the very first day, somebody decided to search for “book”, which of course matched every single book in the library and therefore created enough system load to lock up those poor mid-‘90s computers to the point that they required a hardware restart. IIRC this system was on some kind of a network too and I believe it would also lock up the network such that the other computers couldn’t use the system either. I didn’t know much about such things at the time.

Anyway, word got around immediately and so every single time a class came to the library, somebody would search “book” on a computer to see what would happen and lock up the whole system for hours. This went on for weeks with the punishment for searching “book” on the “boolean search system” becoming more and more severe, and then I moved to a new state so I unfortunately do not know how this story ended.

NTA. And potentially NAH, depending on whether or not you two have communicated about this already. I think it’s good you seem to recognize that your problem isn’t actually how much time he spends on his hobbies, whatever they are, but that you feel like he isn’t spending any time together just with you. I would guess that if you were able to spend adequate time together, you wouldn’t care how much time he spends on hobbies.

My advice would be to approach this topic with him from that angle. Rather than “I don’t like how much you play DnD,” it may be better to try “I feel sad that we never spend time together just the two of us, how can we fix that and strengthen our relationship?”

Obviously I don’t know your husband, but I also can’t shake the feeling that he may be using DnD as an escape from something. In other words, as some kind of coping mechanism for something he’s struggling with. If this is correct, helping him find a healthier way to cope with whatever it is may make things better for everybody.