Ich bin mir nicht ganz sicher, wo genau ich am besten diese Diskussion anrege - deswegen frage ich erst einmal hier. Ich bin etwas entsetzt darüber, wie in /c/worldnews@lemmy.ml modieriert wird. Große Teile der Instanz ist meiner Meinung nach wie lemmygrad oder hexbear auf Tankie-Territorium, sodass ich das schon äußerst grenzwertig finde.

Ich frage mich, wie genau so etwas Konsequenzen haben kann. Feddit hat ja sowohl lemmygrad als auch Hexbear geblockt, nur ist Lemmy.ml um einiges größer und in vielen Teilen auch nicht problematisch. Würde man diese Instanz also blocken, würden da User*innen keinen Zugang mehr zu vielen Inhalten haben.

Ich frage mich jetzt ganz algemein, wie klärt man sowas im Fediverse, besonders im Bezug auf größere Instanzen? Also würden beispielsweise die Admins auf Feddit die Moderation auf Lemmy.ml problematisch finden, welche Möglichkeiten hätten sie in dem Fall "Druck" auf die Admins dort aufzubauen, ohne gleich zu deföderieren?

Video Essay by non-binary video essayist Ryan Beard. It discusses misgony, missandry, and different strains of feminism, and explores how they approach men's issues in patriarchy.

Very interesting watch in my opinion.

CW: Post discusses ABA and possibly Trauma, internalized ableism

Hello there! I'm currently researching the issue of ABA. I'm reading a lot about the criticisms, but most of the resources I found so far are (likely) made by level 1 autistics. As level 2 and level 3 autistics are not as well represented within autism self-advocacy, I would like to understand their position better on the topic. A usual defense for ABA is that it can help high-support-needs autistics to learn important skills, but I would like to read about that from an autistic perspective.

So if there are resources on the subject you can recommend, I'll be grateful! thank you

edit: I'm updating because users in this thread changed my view on this issue. I've been caught up in functioning label, which at the end of the day "levels" of autism still are. Here is what changed my mind:

Those needs you are looking for in an autistic person are completely and utterly irrelevant to you as a reader of their experience, and as far as you’re concerned any or all of the people who have already written about their experience of ABA fit in to your narrow and ignorant category, they just didn’t mention it because again - it isn’t fucking relevant.

There is no reason for me to specifically look for "level 2 or 3" autistics since their experiences are valid, regardless of them disclosing their support needs. It is ableist to expect them to disclose to me how "disabled" they are in order for me to validate their experience. Thanks @DessertStorms@kbin.social and @Ransom@lemmy.ca for helping me understand this. So in a way I found the answers I was looking for, and now I have some thinking to do

elastic bow, cloak of repulsion, etheral chains, ring of arcana, ring of evasion. kept everyone away from me, no time for small talk.

The seed is actually quite fun: there are two +2 Crossbows in the first 5 floors but not a single armor. A bit of a challenge, but fun: TVX-ZLX-FSY

written by Ben Gidley, Daniel Mang, Daniel Randall

written by Ben Gidley, Daniel Mang, Daniel Randall

written by Ben Gidley, Daniel Mang, Daniel Randall.

Hi there. Things have spiraled out of control lately, I don't have a stable job at the moment and when I do, I mostly work from home.

I urgently need to establish some kind of routine and find a way to follow it. Productivity isn't even the priority as I do have a good amount of free time. Problem is that I don't use this boredom effectively at all.

I wanted to know if there are books/guides that could help ADHD people establish routines and how to keep them up. I'm autistic too, which means I greatly benefit from routine.

Thanks for any kind of advice!

I feel a little bad for asking for help again..

So I need to do something. I have no idea what though. So these are things to consider for me:

• I prefer something regular and scheduled. My Autism needs consistency, but my ADHD makes it really hard to establish and maintain.
• I need to get out of my home. I am withering here
• some (predictable) social interaction is okay. If it is too much I probably won't be able to keep up. I'd prefer something with a low upfront social cost (honestly the idea of being introduced to a new group feels overwhelming)
• I prefer a somewhat sensory friendly environment (for example the music in a gym would be really really stressful)

I would like to know what kinds of things you found in your lives that worked. Thanks!

I've spent some time reflecting yesterday and I realized that. When people want you to be confident they don't want you to be actually confident, they want you to pretend you are. It is idiotic and makes no sense, but it explains a lot of situations in which I behaved the wrong way.

confidence to me means the opposite of that. it means questioning your asssumptions, approaching things from a different angle, reflect, recalculate, asking for a second opinion. Because I'll end up with greater confidence that my assertions are more truthful. But apparently doing all that makes people think I'm insecure. Shit!

I don't know where the purpose of my life is. I looked where I last saw it and it isn't there anymore. It's like losing your keychain. All I can do is hope I forgot it somewhere at home because I sure can't go outside without it. I wanna find joy in things again, and it is so difficult to get you shit together when everything feels so meaningless.

The more I look for the keys the more I fear I lost them for good. Which makes me not wanna search for them at all and just distract myself with random stuff. I think that describes my situation quite well.

Anyway I'm sad. But I hope you all are doing okay!