There is something my therapist pointed out to me, who was feeling like fraud about being trans. There is some peer pressure out there on how you have to be to be trans. We are not talking about mean peer pressure, but if you see that bodily transitioning is the way for apparently every trans person, then that must be the way for you too, right? And what if you really dread procedures or meds? Or if you are maybe not super happy with your body, but who ever is? Does that make you less trans? I think it really helps to think of trans as a spectrum and exploring it slowly. And maybe you find your gender identity on that spectrum or you feel role playing etc. is just some good fun. And if you find yourself on that spectrum you can go into character creation and say, I’m fine with the presets or change things up, the result will always be beautifully you.

Gender and trans are a spectrum, so maybe your wandering in that plain is your gender identity? Nonbinary, genderfluid and pangender are labels that took me the longest time to grasp, but are what I’m comfortable now with. And also the aspect, that wether you bodily transition or not does not decide wether you wanna use the label trans for you or not. It’s free and one way or the other it’s great to open up that binary system.

Gay buff gigachad healer would be great. Still remembering that male design for Mercy from Overwatch. Hot damn… 🤩

I second this and wanna add, that it’s also totally cool, to feel like switching into a different body whenever would be neat. Maybe being whomever you want to be whenever feels just right to you.

This is also attainable with outfits though honestly your appearance is completely secondary to how you personally feel about being your self.

Shapeshifters are just awesome characters anyway right?

did you mean: Tinnitus Prime

But what about the droid attack on the Wookiees?

Hi Nen! Thanks for sharing this! Weren’t I so scared of any sort of meds, I’d be on estrogen since 2 years as well. I think being genderfluid is one the labels that are a bit harder to apply to oneself. It’s a label that gets a very stereotypical wrap in pop-culture though in fact in undermines all stereotypes and gives us room to be the best version of ourselves every other day (and also room to be annoyed about pronouns xD) I also rock cute nailpolish, slight makeup with my curly bob and a beard. Took me long enough, but I love it.💜

Thank you for sharing your current struggles! I feel what you describe by a lot. I actively pushed back against my inner coming out for 2-3 years cause I was so afraid. And now somedays I’m really ok and other days, especially when there are social situations where I’m forced into my old shell, I feel horrible and like nothing will ever get better for me.

So, yeah I think that’s totally normal, also your fears of coming out are super understandable. I’m also afraid of a big coming out, so instead I go slow tiny steps. Wear slight makeup or very casual nail polish when I meet people who I slowly want to unlearn that I’m not the cis person they think I am (and I worked so hard to pretend to myself and everyone else I was).

Also concerning drastic changes, of course this feels like a lot, but we have always been who we are, so maybe these changes are just something to work through at whatever pace is possible right now.

To give you my timeline, I figured out I’m not cis in 2018. I actively ignored that cause it felt threatening to my live’s situs until 2021. I panicked so hard cause I did not understand gender as a spectrum and was also very convinced that medical changes are a must have. Mid 2022 I realised I’m nonbinary and somewhat genderfluid and since then I’m working on accepting myself. And only recently I felt maybe it’s not that big of a deal, cause I’m just me and it’s all gonna be ok.

I think you are on a great path to exploring yourself and I wish you all the best for it!! 💜

Feel free to ask me more questions and sorry for the wall of text.

I don’t know the context of your post, but in the fediverse it is part of the netiquette not to judge other people, especially on such oversimplified terms.

Being obese is often not a great experience. I think being told „you can choose not to be a fat bastard“ is already insulting and also insinuating that this aspect of physical and or mental health is a simple matter of choice, which I find to be quite unbearable and very hurtful.

Please take your anger elsewhere. I don’t know what you might be going through right now, but you must find healthier ways to vent this aggression.

Instead of punishing others for their struggles, we can find healthy ways to support one another here.

Who watches those that watch us?

Ich denke das deutsche StGB ist da mit den Amtsdelikten deutlich besser aufgestellt.

Und auch das Disziplinarrecht ist ein gutes Werkzeug, um nicht strafbaren Sachverhalten dennoch auf den Grund zu gehen.

Letzteres könnte aus meiner Sicht auch auf Aussagen darüber greifen, Straftaten durch die eigene Berufsgruppe nicht verfolgt sehen zu wollen.

It’s interesting how gun handling accidents are so symbolic for all self harming political action of conservatives.