The good news is that not only is what you want possible — it’s the normal default. That’s how most people who are not “deconstructing a mountain of lies” feel.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with consensual sexual power play — but the emphasis is on consensual. People choose to be a sub or dom because they have agency in their sexuality, and feel that meets their needs best. A dom who does not respect consent is a rapist not a dom.
So yes again — women with normal sex drives do indeed like sex, and frequently initiate it. This dynamic can even evolve with age — women who hit their peak in their 30s can be positively ravenous about it. It is also normal to not have a high sex drive, or to only experience a sex drive under certain circumstances, such as when in a emotionally safe relationship, or with people you admire intellectually…
How about Canada?