[-] bakachu@lemm.ee 1 points 10 months ago

Took a peek and it's not bad. I like the in-process pics. Sometimes it's helpful to know what it's supposed to look like as you go along. Craving banana bread now, thanks.

[-] bakachu@lemm.ee 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I share that sentiment- that poor person. To society's credit, I have not yet seen any posts or articles with an image or their identity. Hopefully it stays that way.

[-] bakachu@lemm.ee 5 points 10 months ago

Agree, would rather my money went to a local firm with an actual person who I can consistently contact for questions. Did this a few years ago for an especially challenging tax year. Absolutely 0 regrets - if I had done it via self-serve software I would've missed out on quite a few unknown tax assists that the accountant found.

[-] bakachu@lemm.ee 6 points 10 months ago

Huh I did not know this. CK was my backup to FT USA but that is indeed some sneaky shit. I'm scared now for FT USA - PLEASE DO NOT SELL OUT.

[-] bakachu@lemm.ee 18 points 10 months ago

I use TurboTax ina free way - calculate all my taxes using their amazing software and then when the numbers match on the free site, I file there. That's the beauty of TurboTax that you can exploit. I feel it's fair game knowing they make the software open and then trick people who have calculated everything out to pay a ridiculous amount for the filing fee at the end.

[-] bakachu@lemm.ee 7 points 10 months ago

Amazing, and with pictures even for some! Seems to be a fair amount of ethnic dishes. This may be controversial but the only thing missing is an option for feedback. Sometimes a recipe attempter on the bloat sites will find something off (too much salt) and offer their thoughts. I do like checking comments out before trying something as a recipe failure has a little more financial cost nowadays.

Definitely bookmarking though and seeing how I can support.

[-] bakachu@lemm.ee 21 points 10 months ago

I just got these buttons (from Amazon as well lol). Apparently the cat isn't pushing them because I haven't recorded the right words that would allow them to communicate their disdain for me.

[-] bakachu@lemm.ee 10 points 10 months ago

This is the best definition. Hail Hex.

[-] bakachu@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

I hope you are doing ok. If you are in my old situation, know that you aren't alone.

I'm casually observing a lot of this with friends. Met a very accomplished lady recently who shifted from working in the investment banking sector into getting her licensing and a private practice to be a therapist. She worked her ass off with education and multiple part-time jobs to get her to where she's at. Shockingly, she is a mommy-wife to a guy who doesn't want to commit to marriage.

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submitted 11 months ago by bakachu@lemm.ee to c/hawaii@lemmy.ml

Any local folks know what's needed out there and where to go? I want to help but also times like this is when sometimes scams pop up.

[-] bakachu@lemm.ee 8 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

This may be overly cautious, but I recommend making a log and gathering evidence for if/when this escalates further. Keep in mind that at 17 she is still a minor, so there is an additional burden of responsibility that is imposed upon you and your partner in every interaction you have with her. Get dates, times, and statements from your brother and partner on the 2 occasions she entered your home and slept over, in particular. The last thing you want to deal with is a false accusation from this kid who does not seem to regard nor respect your boundaries, which you have set clear at this point. Get security cameras. Document everything ongoing. I personally wouldn't block her texts for now.

Next step is to inform her legal guardians, in this case her parents, that she is not welcome on your property nor to contact you or your partner. I would do it in some form of writing - email or text, again for the sake of evidence. At this point the responsibility for her actions shifts to them. If she is on your doorstep contact them directly and expect immediate action. You can also inform them that you have concerns over her mental health.

Once these are done, you have real actionable choices that you can take. I know it sucks having to feel like a bad guy in this scenario, but it sounds like she needs professional help. Her parents are the ones to blame here.

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submitted 11 months ago by bakachu@lemm.ee to c/askwomen@lemm.ee

Got out of my last relationship for this reason (amongst other things). I was the everything person - cook, accountant, maid, landscaper, scheduler, fun planner, etc. It didn't start that way of course - just little acts of service out of love that became the expectation over time. Are things more equitable in your relationships, or are there any women who are where I was at? I'm still scratching my head wondering if I bear some of the blame for setting myself up that way and trying to get some good perspective for the next one!

bakachu

joined 11 months ago