Because workers dont pick the low-paid shitty job when there is jobs they can do just as easily that pay higher.

Why work with low pay in retail when you can work in a plant on a production robot after a few days of training? The plant job most likely pays more, because the productivity is higher due to automation.

Retail can't become more productive because you can't automate it, yet you have to raise wages to make workers consider retail.

You're asking others to provide you with a social life.

I do believe that you're trying your best, but you're not entitled to have others want to hang out with you. If they wanted to, then you're right and you did your part. But what if they don't want to? Do they have to change themselves just for you to have a social life?

I'm not gonna lie, you're entitled attitude here makes me feel like you are not pleasant to be around. I may be misreading you, but I'm getting major incel vibes. Here's the thing: you trying to make friends doesn't mean they have to reciprocrate.

You are not entitled to have otherslike you or want to hang out with you. Your desire for a social and romantic life is valid and understandable, but that is on your side. The world does not have to care about it, as hard as it sounds.

For what it's worth, it took me until my mid-thirties to actually find a social circle. More than 3/4 of my life I struggled just as you. Stop expecting from the world to bend over backwards for you, work on your attitudes and on accepting that even though you gave it your best shot these people may not be friend material. If that happwns, move on.

Don't try to hang out with people because you want to make friends. Hang out with people because you want to do something interesting. Shift your focus from making friends to simply enjoying the time. I don't know what your interests are, but you can join a movie club if you area movie nerd, you can try geocaching if that tickles your fancy, go running... whatever activity you enjoy. Once the pressure on yourself is gone from "I have to make friends" chances are you will be much more relaxed and approachable.

People are not a tool to get a social life. A social life happens when you do things you enjoy and you find people who share that passion on the way.

I usually tell people that I'm not too sensitive, but simply more sensitive than others like themselves, and that they just don't want to be considerate because it inconveniences them.

Lots of people get super flustered when that gets stated calmly and without much emotion. The key is not to yell or get emotionally, but to state it very calmly.

That way, they can't retort with personal attacks and actually have to address what I said. Usually they point out that others are not as sensitive, or that the world doesnt revolve around me. My reply in those cases depends on the situation. It could be something like "That's true, but I'm not other people, and this noise bothers me. Why is it so important to you to keep making it?"

If it is a family member, I try to point out that this is my home and I would like to be comfortable there, and I would try to figure out how to find a compromise.

When you are more calm, take him aside and ask him to respect your preference. Asking for a reason why is not respecting it. He can always ask for a reason, but if you can't give him one, he still needs to accept that you have a preference. It also does not matter if he agrees or understands.

Edit: typo.

hugs well, now you know: you're not lazy, this is your brain working against you. I found bribing myself with something I enjoy after I did one thing I don't helps. It's like giving my stubborn brainchild a lolli :)

Not the person you asked, but I always felt guilty for "claiming" a diagnosis, long after it was official. What if the doc was wrong? What if I'm just too lazy and need to get my shit together? Surely I'm just looking for excuses, because that's what had been drilled into my head for over 30 years: I can't be that exhausted, I'm just trying to get out of doing what I'm supposed to.

It's a weird thing to use the word imposter syndrome on a diagnosis, but that's exactly what it felt like. I don't deserve a valid "excuse". I am conning everyone into cutting me some slack when I'm really just lazy. Took me years of therapy - and, honestly, a job where they tell me I'm doing a lot and supporting my team, even though I still feel like I don't do anything. The brainwashing is strong when you're late-diagnosed :(

Not officially diagnosed with ADD (on a waitlist though) but autistic, and I second that. I constantly feel like I'm too lazy and yet I got my current job through an internship. It was supposed to last three months and I got an of#er three weeks in, because they were so impressed with my willingness to perform.

I was very bewildered. I still have to remind myself of that when I feel like I'm not getting shit done because my mind refuses to cooperate. What I can convince myself of by now is that those moments are the productivity normal for most people and that even when I'm like that my productivity is high enough - especially because that is usually the moment when I look into things that are not the absolute core of my job.

I'm a test automation engineer, but people explicitly want me to not just automate, but also care for quality topics as a whole, so reading relevant blogs and security news and feeding that back into the team is part of my job.

Still often feel guilty about that, but my boss repeatedly told me I'm absolutely overachieving and fulfilling the job more than he hoped for.

For me, there's two takeaways:

1. you probably have higher standards for yourself that most people, and the moments where your brain cooperates you're like a racecar compared to a truck, and
2. find a niche that interests you is of utmost importance. I was once at an info event for SAP and they said that autistic people are intrinsically motivated and it's almost impossible to get us motivated with things like more money. It's definitely true for me, and for my few ADHD friends, though I'm not sure if that is in general true. Accepting this has allowed me to make peace with myself and to take a much healthier approach to jobs than before - "I can work any job, I don't need my dream job" when I was desperate for a job was the most toxic thing I could do to myself.

Dude. Just look at the dictionary mening of the words. That's the actual meaning. If you want to say A, use words that mean A literally. Don't say A and B and expect us to know that you actually mean C.

You know exactly what you're doing because you proceed to complain about us wanting to not have poetry and metaphor.

I always thought it was just not possible to measure the state without changing it, so we have no way of even guessing. Schrödinger's Cat is actually a terrible analogy imho, I always liked to think of it like christmas presents - you don't know what the inside looks like until you open it. It could be anything!

But then again, once we open it we know it has always been that. Maybe a chameleon in a box and we can't know what color it had at a given time, even if we open it later? :::

Neiter you nor the person you're replying to is wrong, but the way I see it you're coming from different angles.

You're coming from the view of an experienced GM, while the person before you worries about people getting in the game or struggle with their social skills.

Imho, both ruleset have their place and everything depends on the group, what they want, what their personalities are and how experienced they are.

I would never run a table because I don't think I could handle it if one of the players got combative, and that danger is higher when you go rules light I would guess.

My understanding of that article was that it was not necessarily about duplicated code, but duplicated data. If you have two places storing the same data, and different parts of your app go to each of it, you need to somehow keep them in sync, and that's often a pain.

I'm trying to be very rigorous about avoiding that, duplicated code I'm a bit less rigorous about.

Agreed! A good meme will make me laugh even if I've seen it before, unless it was three times yesterday.