Thevenin

joined 2 years ago
[–] Thevenin@beehaw.org 5 points 1 week ago

Most of what I have to say is just signal boosting everyone else here.

  • Get your hormones tested, and note what point in your cycle the levels were recorded.
  • Birth control measures can affect hormones, so switching measures might change things for you, for better or worse.
  • Tell the doctor about any major life changes or potential stressors that could trigger a hormone imbalance. My (cisgendered) sister ended up with low progesterone in her 30s due to a stressful divorce.
  • Be prepared for the doc to hear "hormone problems" and prescribe "weight loss." This is a common cop-out for overworked doctors in the USA who don't want to actually understand the problem.
  • If you're in the UK, don't tell the doc you relate to trans women, or that you took advice from us. Nothing good will come from that.

Since you identify as cisgendered, it's a good idea to speak with a therapist about your self-image and feelings of worth, as those may either be caused by or be the cause of the wrongness you're experiencing. Ask the therapist about body dysmorphia, not gender dysphoria. They're similar, but not identical. And finally, a few things that we trans girls do to help ourselves through the bad days:

  • Try to remind yourself that in the modern world, almost all women have similar feelings of self-loathing to one degree or another. We're all taught to feel like our faces and hair and bodies need fixing, because it makes us better consumers for cosmetics, media, surgeries, clothing, you name it. It's just like men "negging." Desperation gives them leverage. (Sorry, you're on a trans server, you have to sit through at least one anticapitalist rant.)
  • Try to remember that your worth is not defined by your appearance. Beauty is temporary, courage is forever. Anyone who can't see that doesn't deserve you.
  • Go on a detox from Instagram, Tik-Tok, magazines, or anywhere that you might see highly curated, highly filtered, and carefully lit pictures of models. They're unrealistic and will wreck your self-image.
  • Try taking some flattering pictures of yourself on the days when you feel good. It helps save the feeling for later. I recommend a ring light.
  • On the days you feel awful, something performatively feminine can really hit the spot. For me, nail polish is great because it helps me feel pretty and decorated without looking in a mirror.
[–] Thevenin@beehaw.org 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

If you're willing to hit up Ebay for "new in box" options, you can get some pretty good stuff under $180. For wireless:

Fairbuds XL: Made by the Fairphone folks, who have a very good reputation for repairability and longevity.

Sonos Ace: Stainless steel pivots, replaceable earpads, huge battery, no glitchy touch controls. Mine have treated me well so far. Absurd you can find them this cheap, considering the original MSRP.

[–] Thevenin@beehaw.org 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

About 1 months to lose, 2 to regain. ~3.5% of body mass. Normal amounts of weekly exercise throughout (walking, stair climbing, calisthenics).

[–] Thevenin@beehaw.org 6 points 3 months ago (4 children)
  • Curves: Curves take a lot of time, because fat redistribution is a slow process. I've been told it kicks in after several years. Excercise helps, and I think it's mostly because it improves your metabolism. Despite what some have said, cycles of (unintentional) weight loss and gain absolutely did not accelerate redistribution for me.
  • Diet: Honestly, just eat what's healthy. Hydrate. Get good quality sleep. You're a growing young woman, and they don't call it "second puberty" for nothing.
  • Breast Growth: Congrats on the cup size! But I can't say if it's slow or fast. The spectrum of "normal" breast growth is wide and nonlinear (growth spurts). If your nipples hurt, then it's working, so celebrate and treat yourself to ibuprofen and a hot pack.
  • Fem Appearance: Get hair advice from a trans-inclusive hairdresser. Good conditioner made more difference than I thought. Painting my nails is a special euphoria for me; even when I feel like a ceramic construction material, I can look down and see pretty colors on my hands. Try on lots of clothes, including stuff outside your comfort zone.
  • Mannerisms: Fem-coded mannerisms are a wildly deep topic. I'd suggest looking at photoshoots to see what they're doing with their hands, how they touch their faces, and how they carry themselves. Important: try to only look at photoshoots of people whose bodies remind you of yourself, and remember that magazines are designed to trigger self-loathing spirals in their readers.
  • General Advice: "Try everything and keep doing whatever felt good" seems to be a winning strategy. You have a new body, new hormones, and a new outlook on life. Who knows what kind of person you could be. Discover yourself!
[–] Thevenin@beehaw.org 6 points 4 months ago

I hardly speak for everyone, but I though the objective was pretty clear: attract cameras and control the narrative for once.

The first round was intentionally scheduled so that the news would publish pictures of massive protests alongside Trump's pathetic military parade. I'd speculate the date for the second round was chosen in anticipation of a deadlock over the appropriations bill (it was selected by August 23rd).

Optics aren't my thing. I'm not good at them, and I care a lot more about direct action. Nevertheless, I still think seizing control of the narrative is important work. Trump relies on image projection and promises of power to corral Republicans, after all. Put him on the defensive, and the image falters.

[–] Thevenin@beehaw.org 19 points 4 months ago

Spoiler: sadly not true. EO 10834 (called out in 4 USC SS5) specifies placement and proportions and colors of all elements.

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/7d/US_Flag_spec_TIOH_5-1-17_1967.jpg

[–] Thevenin@beehaw.org 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Just started Beyond Good and Evil on GameCube.

I never played many console games in 2003, so I don't have much point of reference, but I'm impressed so far. I think the stylized graphics aged well. Environments look organic and detailed without losing readability, and characters look like they belong. The voice acting is solid, and I-Can't-Believe-It's-Not-Porco-Rosso's banter is good. I don't expect much from the plot, but the characters and world seem well-realized.

[–] Thevenin@beehaw.org 7 points 5 months ago

I don't recommend the upcoming Lenovo Legion Go 2. The Go 2 is around $1300, and only offers some 20% performance increase over the previous gen (with the Z1E CPU) which is currently $750. The ROG Xbox Ally X pricing is yet to be revealed.

The elephant in the room is the Steam Deck OLED, which you can find refurbished/certified for $440. It's not as powerful, but power is never going to be a handheld's strong suit anyway. They're everywhere and tons of indie games are made with it in mind.

If you're willing to get a bit nerdy, game streaming is getting pretty good these days, and is really easy on battery life. Moonlight lets you stream games from your desktop PC, while Xbox Remote Play can stream from your Xbox. If cloud gaming is your jam, Nvidia Geforce Now and Xbox Cloud Gaming are available. For any of these, the Steam Deck would be perfectly adequate, but if you want something smaller and lighter, you could also go with an AYN Odin 2 Portal, which is an Android-based handheld with WiFi 7 and a nice 120Hz OLED screen for around $330.

[–] Thevenin@beehaw.org 7 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Not an expert, but here are some good ones:

Earthbound (SNES) - Kids-on-bikes fight aliens and meet cryptids in a quest to stop a cosmic horror in a JRPG set in suburban America. It's weird, wonderful, musical, and sometimes startlingly heartfelt. Not too grindy as JRPGs go, but keep the 2x fast,forward button handy anyway.

Chrono Trigger (SNES) - Another must-play. It's a time-travelling fantasy JRPG with one of the best OSTs ever made. While playing it, I had an existential crisis realizing I'd never run a D&D campaign this cool.

Metroid Fusion (GBA) - A metroidvania (duh) set in an infested space station, where an injured Samus races to arm herself against an unknown enemy. It manages to feel desperate, claustrophobic, and fast-paced, which -- hot take -- I feel is rare for the genre.

The Legend of Zelda: The Minish Cap (GBA) - A self-indulgent pick for me, as I imprinted on this short-but-sweet game at an early age. It's the last isometric Zelda and a swansong to the genre. The central gimmick, shrinking Link to the size of a mouse, gives the pixel artists the rare chance to show environments in lush, up-close detail that makes the world spring to life. Also: Ezlo sounds like Danny Devito. That is all.

[–] Thevenin@beehaw.org 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Google's ongoing Android lockdown feels like the end of an era, with the understanding that eras don't end overnight. They fade away slowly.

 

cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/18144707

According to the Colorado Name Change Project, the US State Department has stopped processing of all gender marker correction applications. This is confirmed by Notus.org, which adds that the policy change affects passport renewals as well.

At this time, there are rumors that the Minnesota Passport Agency is confiscating documents when denying a gender marker change. These rumors are unconfirmed as of the time of this post, but the situation is still developing.

https://www.namechangeproject.org/gender-marker/

https://m.facebook.com/ColoradoNameChangeProject/

https://www.notus.org/whitehouse/trump-gender-sex-order-passports

The ACLU has a form open for any affected by this policy: https://www.aclu.org/transpassports2025


Update: Marco Rubio has confirmed that the state department has suspended all applications including a gender change or an X gender marker, including applications which were already in progress. Official word on the status of existing passports "will come via other channels." https://theintercept.com/2025/01/23/marco-rubio-state-department-passports-gender-trans-nonbinary/

Update 2: tiktok user @gentlereality has confirmed that her passport application was suspended pending "administrative guidance" on Jan 30, and her original documents (birth certificate, etc) withheld "indefinitely". The application went through (with "M" gender markers) and the original documentation was returned Feb 3. From this I can conclude that the rumors of documentation being confiscated were at least partially true -- the difference between confiscation and withholding depends entirely on how long "indefinitely" actually lasts.

 

According to the Colorado Name Change Project, the US State Department has stopped processing of all gender marker correction applications. This is confirmed by Notus.org, which adds that the policy change affects passport renewals as well.

At this time, there are rumors that the Minnesota Passport Agency is confiscating documents when denying a gender marker change. These rumors are unconfirmed as of the time of this post, but the situation is still developing.

https://www.namechangeproject.org/gender-marker/

https://m.facebook.com/ColoradoNameChangeProject/

https://www.notus.org/whitehouse/trump-gender-sex-order-passports

The ACLU has a form open for any affected by this policy: https://www.aclu.org/transpassports2025


Update: Marco Rubio has confirmed that the state department has suspended all applications including a gender change or an X gender marker, including applications which were already in progress. Official word on the status of existing passports "will come via other channels." https://theintercept.com/2025/01/23/marco-rubio-state-department-passports-gender-trans-nonbinary/

Update 2: tiktok user @gentlereality has confirmed that her passport application was suspended pending "administrative guidance" on Jan 30, and her original documents (birth certificate, etc) withheld "indefinitely". The application went through (with "M" gender markers) and the original documentation was returned Feb 3. From this I can conclude that the rumors of documentation being confiscated were at least partially true -- the difference between confiscation and withholding depends entirely on how long "indefinitely" actually lasts.

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egg🐧irl (beehaw.org)
submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by Thevenin@beehaw.org to c/egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

So I've been thinking about Linux recently, and I'm told this is where the Linux experts hang out. I have a lot of questions that I can barely articulate, so I'm just hoping someone gets where I'm coming from.

I always knew there were more than two operating systems, but the closest I got to open-source software was dabbling with Firefox and OpenOffice in college. I'm an engineer, and trying to stay compatible with all the engineering programs means you're probably going to use Windows whether you like it or not, so I never seriously considered another OS until now. I'm proud of being good at Windows, but also bitter about it… I can't shake the nagging feeling that I've been missing out.

So I started looking up guides on Linux, and I have so many questions.

I'm astonished by how many distros there are. It's not just Ubuntu, we have Mint and Zorin and MX and enough options to make my head spin. So how do you choose a distro? Do you just know, or do you have to try them all? Trying one is daunting enough. I'm afraid people might lose respect for me and the open-source software movement if I change my mind. Is there some place where you can try distros on for size without the trouble and risk of migrating multiple times?

How do I know if Linux is right for me? How do I know Windows is wrong? If I loathe my user experience with Windows, is that the fault of Windows or just me? If Linux starts feeling comfortable, how do I know it's because I've made the right choice and it's not just inertia setting in? Does that even matter?

I'm at least good with Windows, but I lack the intuition of the average Linux user. Could I really master Linux the way I have Windows, or would my awkward personality relegate me to being a permanent tourist?

Is my hardware too old to start tinkering with OSs?

I know your choice of OS should take priority over your programs, as long as those programs aren't vital, but I have a full Steam library and don't look forward to losing any old friends. Can I partition my drive? Is that worth the trouble, switching from OS to OS depending on circumstances? I hear some distros these days can run some windows programs, and that you don't have to leave your old programs behind the way you used to, but can I count on that trend continuing?

Will losing touch with the Windows environment make it more difficult for me to succeed in a Windows-dominated career?

Sorry for the ramble. I'm probably overthinking this. I overthink everything. But I also grew up in a time and place where changing OSs meant you risked losing everything.

EDIT: The post title has been updated from “Need help with Linux” to “egg🐧irl” to meet local standards. This post happened because I was writing a post for a tech forum, but had other things on my mind, things which I’ve yet to find the courage to verbalize directly. I appreciate the advice and encouragement, both about migrating to Linux, and… yaknow… “migrating to Linux.”

 

I've been getting back into printing and painting D&D miniatures lately I'm not very good yet, but I felt like sharing some of the things I've learned.

Bearded Devils https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/635943923575160832/1129061019772256376/20230711_085409.jpg

I printed these from a Loot Studios 3d file I got a few years back. The skin is a basecoat of purple with a wash of Citadel Reiksland Fleshshade. I did not use primer, and time will tell if that was a mistake. For the clothing, I used a different color for each model, because I like color coding my enemies instead of numbering them. I used basecoats like Reaper Bleached Linen with a watered-down topcoat. I find that if you get the consistency right, watered-down acrylics act almost exactly like contrast paints, so that's my go-to for fabrics.

A Bearded's Devil's beard is supposed to be prehensile and snakelike. I tried drybrushing, but it didn't make the tentacles look slimy. I tried edge highlighting, but I don't want to spend 30 minutes painting a monster that will die in 29. I settled on a base of lime green with a topcoat of watered-down Armypainter Angel Green, and while it's a smidge messy, it's the right ratio of effort to results for my taste.

Drybrushing added a bit of white to all the horns and sun-facing surfaces. I'm still getting the hang of drybrushing, so it looks a little dusty on some of them.

I wanted the ground to look like umber or lignite, so I used Citadel Contrast Wildwood directly on the grey resin. I'm very happy with the outcome. I think most people paint their bases before gluing the minis on, but I learned the hard way that you have to leave a bare patch for the feet or else the CA glue won't stick.

The devil front-and-center is a lesson in persistence. Its entire left leg failed to print below the knee, but print failures are just kitbashes waiting to happen. Instead of throwing it out, I added a nail as a pegleg, glued down with a few dots of resin (stronger than CA glue, IMO). It's now my favorite of the group. As I like to say, "Some resin and paint make me the printer I ain't."

Chain Devils https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/635943923575160832/1129061020388819105/20230707_174901.jpg

These were conceptually simple but technically challenging. I used Army Painter Pure Red as the basecoat and highlighted the chains in Leadbelcher, which was time consuming. The whole thing got drenched in Agrax Earthshade, which is my favorite way to make skin look dirty and metal look rusty. I think that making the Chain Devil look like a tetanus dispenser should a good way to prevent your players from calling them "chain daddies," but we'll see. I followed up with some Reaper Filigree Silver drybrushing to make some of the points look sharp.

I wanted the bases to look like mud or clay, and Snakebite on the bare grey resin accomplished just that.

Spined Devils https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/635943923575160832/1129061020091043911/20230707_174926.jpg

These were a ton of fun. A basecoat of purple, a wash with Agrax, and drybrushing with Army Painter Pure Red to put some blush on the spines. They come pretty close to the pictures in the book.

For the ground, I wanted chert or flint, something sharp and unpleasant like the creature itself, so I painted it matte grey and added white drybrushing to the edges.

Kobolds https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/635943923575160832/1129062753911459861/20230707_175014.jpg

These are Reaper Bones miniatures I've had around for a while. I spent way too much time painting because these models have so much personality I couldn't help myself. Since Kobolds mostly wear skins, I made heavy use of Contrast Snakebite and Wyldwood, alternating basecoats for different color tones. The inventor's wicker basket is Wyldwood directly on the white mini. I think some light drybrushing on the two on the right would help bring out their skin texture.

I'm pretty disappointed with the sorcerer's fireball. It doesn't seem very energetic. Some glow effects could help here, but I haven't learned how to do object-source lighting yet, and these minis are punishingly tiny.

If anyone has advice or feedback, I'm all ears.

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