Nah, society is just a bunch of idiots smashing rocks together, and we all stare at the ones with the biggest or the shiniest rocks. That does not mean your enjoyment of playing with sticks is invalid.

And this is in no way an attempt to put people into discrete boxes. The body might fit for most, but then there's the pesky tail that sticks out. It's those quirks that make us unique that I'm after here, and testing the limits of your model is one way to do it.

The beauy of n-dimensional space is that you can just add dimensions if you feel like you're being projected into lower-dimensional space and details get lost in translation.

But there's also the thing where the act of taking a measurement affects the thing being measured, so "n-ball of uncertainty" is perfectly fine!

Thanks for your reply! I love your take on finding beauty in both sides, seems like letting go of a need to be one or the other might feel freeing in a way.

Would you say that sexuality and romantic preferences are more connected for you specifically, or are there still differences? For me there's a clear difference between sexual and romantic attraction. And it would make sense that there is some difference for pansexual or panromantic people as well. To put it bluntly, would the answer to "Fuck and Marry" be the same person, or would they be different? (We don't kill people here).

And does your intention to put yourself out there more as an introverted person stem from something more? For me, there was a clear goal of combating shyness and improving self-esteem that made me put myself into more social situations. And I felt like I deserve to reap the benefits of having more developed social skills every once in a while.

If you feel any of these things are too sensitive, or personal to talk about, just know that catgirls are naturally curious and will not hold it against you if you draw the line somwhere.

Oh I like that one better!

Yes, definitely need more of these! I'll try make some if inspiration hits.

Seems like a definitive answer requires more research with higher sample size.

I've also noticed a difference in online exposure, and the difference in subscriber counts between FtM and MtF communities on Blåhaj Lemmy also suggest it's real thing.

But there's also the possibility that people don't want to identify with the "trans" label. Since modern models of gender identity require it to be treated as a high-dimensional vector, the spectrum representation probably doesn't cut it for a larger amount of people than we might be aware of.

I noticed the same thing from the original pie chart OP posted. Turns out there is research supporting the hypothesis that there are less people identifying as binary trans male overall.

Still really interested to see what the results of this poll will be, keeping in mind that the numbers may be influenced by non-subscribers and users from across the fediverse.

Edit: whoops, corrected "transmasculine" to "binary trans male" to avoid confusion.

Probably should use something like StrawPoll for more dynamic results. Then again, if this is just for giggles it doesn't really matter and going by comments on a post is fine too.

Pesky lemmings being persistent! :3

Honestly, I'm not sure if I'm missing anything I can't have by doing things differently. Guess it's mostly just a Schrödinger's gender identity situation. I might be happier after socially transitioning. I might be happier after medically transitioning. The only way to know for sure is to experience, and taking the plunge on any of this is scary for multiple reasons.

I'm willing to bet I'm not the only one in this "quantum trans superposition state", so I guess I'll just hang around here and read about some of your experiences.

I know for sure that I don't fit the template for someone born male, and I have known to varying degrees since I was eight years old. I have thought about transitioning before and the idea of it feels more comfortable to me than it probably does for most cis people. It's just that I'm being careful with decisions that might leave lasting effects (both socially and mentally) until I'm more sure they will make my life better.

Appreciate you taking the time to pick my brain about this stuff!

Fair enough. Guess the moral of the story is don't piss off the creative mass murderer.

For the memez I'm going to say "of course", but I'm actually partial to wood or charcoal myself.

There's just something about the authentic smokey flavour that makes your food taste amazing.

Guess I'm an old fashioned guy/girl (not quite sure about either yet).

Thanks for your kind words!

I, myself am perfectly okay with who I am and my evolving identity (all of us are just Pokémon after all).

There's this anxiety that stems from never being entirely sure how your environment is going to react that is causing this to be a more personal journey for me. Somehow it feels like having a greater degree of certainty is going to make actually being who I am to the rest of the world a lot easier. Confidence is key I guess.

Having had some bad experiences being open about my feelings definitely doesn't help either. So until the need to do otherwise arises, I'll probably just be honest with myself and not entirely with my surroundings.

In the meantime I'm having lots of fun stealthily experimenting with everything not tied to the stereotypical masculine identity. And I'll continue doing so until I feel the need to make those elements part of my public identity.

That's what mirrors are for. Though I agree, it might be a bit tricky. (Definitely haven't just mimicked it to see if it would work...)