Cuuuuuuute! This pic goes hard. As in it makes me hard.

Despite being with my wife for nearly half my life, I've never had penetrative sex. It was originally because my wife has severe anxiety about things going inside her, but to be honest there's some hesitancy from me now as well. I've gotten very used to how we have sex and it doesn't involve penetration.

We have a partner now and I think it's something that they'd be open to, but I'm actually pretty nervous about the whole thing.

My desires were always fairly unconventional but the way my wife's and my sex life has developed has really reinforced that. My wife is essentially 100% top at this point. They have no real interest in reciprocation. They're on the ace spectrum so their enjoyment is different. Every once in a blue moon they'll ask for something but it generally doesn't end with them orgasming. All of that to say my main contribution to my sex life has just been becoming enjoyable to watch. I'm usually very vocal and squirmy. I whimper, beg, plead, cry, scream, etc. lol.

It was somewhat validating that one of the first times the three of us had sex together our new partner said they loved what I was doing and that it was definitely turning them on. I felt a lot of pressure to reciprocate for my wife for so long because I didn't want to be one of those lazy partners who doesn't do anything, but that's sort of what my wife wants out of it. Letting go of that was difficult for me. So actually hearing from someone else tell me that what I'm doing is actually enjoyable meant a lot. Not that I ever doubted my wife, but, you know how things are. Like when a stranger compliments your outfit as opposed to someone you know well.

So, that would be the "confession". I'd never describe myself as a virgin, but I've definitely never had traditional sex.

I don't think labels are terribly important for anything other than making communication easier. That said, watching and being humiliated definitely feels like what most would call cuckoldry. But by other definitions, you might not be called a cuckold because you're actively engaged in a sexual activity (regardless of context). Sometimes people use the term to just mean not being involved at all, like if your wife was cheating on you.

It doesn't really matter what you call yourself here. It's not like if what you are doing is technically cuckoldry if that suddenly means it is wrong. As long as everyone is consenting and enjoying themselves it doesn't matter.

All that said, I think most people would call this cuckoldry lol.

This conversation has popped back into my head. Over the last year a friend my wife met over the Internet and at conventions became a mutual cuddle buddy of ours and (with my wife) a romantic interest.

In hindsight I think your story helped nudge me towards it. Around October I began doing erotic roleplay with folks online. A lot of times I wanted to do more stuff with them, like JOI or just involve voice chat or anything but it was always outside of the limits.

After it was clear my wife was interested romantically in our mutual friend we brought back up the topic of poly and where our boundaries really are. To make a long story short, I just picked up my wife from the airport last night after her visiting this friend alone. I'm very happy for them. I've started doing more directly sexual things online with folks as opposed to just roleplay too. We're both as happy as can be still.

Also, your story about what your partner said after the first time reminded me of the first time I went on an online "date" with someone. My wife was actually excited for me and gushed over the details with me and afterwards, later that day she very specifically came and sat with me on the couch and cuddled. It's been a great experience overall. Just like with you, it's helped my wife feel less anxious about needing to be able to satisfy me. It's made the times she actually is in the mood better as well because she feels less stressed.

What about an erotic roleplay community?

Re: incest

You make a good point about most incest porn not feeling very incesty. I watch it sometimes but only specific types. I'm into dom sub stuff. A lot of it out there tends to be super hard and over the top. A lot of step mother incest porn tends to hit the same notes of the dom sub stuff but in a gentler way. That they're supposedly a family is not part of it for me. It's more the kinkiness of someone taking advantage of you that has a trusted position of authority over you. Like if it was a boss and employee I'd still enjoy it. The content tends to be more gentle in the domination than content tagged as BDSM. There you find stuff like people tied up. I like that too but a variety is nice.

I'm not into Daddy/Daughter so I can't really say, but does it feel similar to how people call their partner daddy/mommy to you? Like I can get down with calling my wife "mommy" but she doesn't like it so I don't call her that. But even for me it's just the mommy aspect, her calling me son or a child feels weird. That's not part of it for me.

I mention is because this is a good example of what I was trying to describe in the past. To me, someone saying "I have a daddy kink" or "I want to be called daddy" all feel much less taboo than "I have a daddy/daughter kink". I guess because it feels similar to pedophilia (I'm not saying it is, just trying to work out why I think people would treat it as taboo). That said, as a man being called "daddy" by a woman is basically them saying "I'm your daughter" in a sense but it feels like folks don't want to treat it the same.

This definitely feels like a fetish and also definitely feels like it crosses the taboo line. Assuming you're not just shit posting (lol), are you interested in using eel shaped toys with a partner or is it just a fantasy?

I'm not subscribed to that community. It's not my thing. I'm not into Loli either. Frankly, I do see a problem with Loli. I guess to me it is because the Loli "excuse" of "she's actually 3000 years old but just looks like a child" but then they proceed to portray them exactly as someone would portray a child. They (generally, I'm sure someone has counter examples) don't portray them as some wizened elderly woman in a child's body. That's why Loli generally feels disgusting to me.

Age verification is the correct thing to do. In the broader internet where things are less strict I'm sure you can find actual underage actors (who are possibly even being trafficked) where it could be avoided with proper age verification. Frankly I think that's just a super important thing (even apart from this specific discussion). An assumption I'm making (and I guess everyone is) is that the admins' age verification is adequate. So, assuming it is, I don't see a problem with allowing creators who appear young to make NSFW content of themselves. If it's not adequate then there's a much more important discussion that needs to be had. Based on some of the sticky posts over the past few weeks it seems like they're serious about it.

To your point, a lot of content makes my skin crawl. I just ignore it. If there's any I think is actually illegal I'd report it. Maybe I haven't seen the specific ones you're talking about so maybe that's why I don't feel the same way. I briefly went to the community when I heard about this and just now to see what the fuss was and it just seemed like legal but youthful looking people. Or just folks in their mid twenties just trying to look cute or wholesome. I didn't see anything that makes me feel the need to report anything as CSAM. That's just me. I believe you should report content you think is CSAM, I'm not trying to say you shouldn't.

I know I said it before but I really do view this whole thing similar to folks who may not understand forms of kink are consensual. It's not a one-to-one thing, but it is similar. Seeing a consensual rape-play session may make people question what the fuck is happening and may make their skin crawl. But if everyone is consenting then it's fine. I understand why people would have a hard time accepting that (especially if they themselves have been abused).

I believe their argument is that the community is a gathering place for stuff that looks like CSAM as opposed to any of the content looking like CSAM or not. I'm not agreeing or disagreeing, but it's important to represent people's arguments correctly.

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I don't think forcing people to use specific negative prompts is a good approach. Don't take that as me saying I think CP is acceptable though. Also people can easily fake metadata on images in the same way they can modify an image. Using a bot to check metadata won't solve anything. Plus you could probably make CP looking stuff even with specific negative prompts.

Downvote and reporting is best in my opinion.