Out of curiosity (please feel free to disregard if the question is too personal), when you've partaken in kinky activities with other people, has it been sexual in nature or have they been other types of experiences?
I'm not very knowledgeable about that world but I've always sort of associated it with sexual gratification, I have heard fairly recently that a pretty large portion of people engage in it without involving sex and I'm just curious about what kind of enjoyment is involved in that case.
To be fair, the vast majority of these are societal standards and not rights, they are still absolutely important and we need to do more for equality both for women and for men, but strictly speaking they are not by definition rights.
But I am in agreement with you that I think a lot of why the younger generation are being pulled in the wrong direction is because men, of which I am one, have not done enough to create an environment that addresses issues that primarily affects men in a way that is not based on misogyny.
Don't get me wrong, the alt-right have absolutely tried to exacerbate these issues (either knowingly or unknowingly) and use them for their own gains, but we as a society have also not prioritized emotionally healthy solutions and that has led us to where we are.