[-] Libb@jlai.lu 15 points 23 hours ago

You have all my sympathy. I don't know cancer stages but, as someone who was diagnosed to not have much more than a fe months at most a year to live many, many years ago, I know it can be worth double or even triple-checking. Seeing another specialist was a revelation for me as the new doctor she, well, she did not contradict the first doctor diagnosis but instead she suggested me a new experimental treatment the other doctor (a very nice but also a much older lady) was apparently not even aware existed.

How to talk about it with your family depends entirely of your relationship with each of your family member. There is no such thing as one right way to tell them all.

I would only tell people I trust, that's for sure. And there aren't that many. Then, I would decide to which of those people I love I can tell, and how much I can tell, and how. Some, no matter how close we can be, I would not tell them anything.

I mean, when I was persuaded my time was coming, we talked openly about it with my spouse. We discussed absolutely every single aspect of what was to happen like the two (back then young) adults we were supposed to be, two persons caring one for the other. We talked openly because that is how we had always done it when faced with any serious issue, like we still do today. But I would not have talked like that with anyone else. Certainly not with my parents.

No matter how much we love them, many people simply aren't wired for 100% honest talk, and can't stand those kind of hard truth without being overwhelmed by denial and emotions (some of which can become very problematic when heartbreaking decisions and choices must be made), the kind emotions you may yourself not want to deal with at that time (I certainly did not want to).

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 2 points 2 days ago
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[-] Libb@jlai.lu 11 points 2 days ago

Funny Illustrations (sorry, no idea where to put them):

(I would love to find a Bill Watterson one, if anyone knows. I own all his Calvin & Hobbes albums, it would just be for the pure joy of regularly see one popup on my screen :))

Nature is often odd & that's great:

Movies:

*!fullmoviesonyoutube@lemm.ee

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 1 points 2 days ago

Sorry for being unclear about the way I used “vet” in the title. I can see how that was misleading a little bit.

Don't be. It happens all the time and that's fine. That said, thx a lot for taking the time. Also note that I'm still not sure it was what you meant. Was it? ;)

so if you really like Kagi, I’m happy to hear about it.

Please, do consider my entire comment not just a part of it. What I said is that I do indeed like it a lot and also that I find it expensive and I'm not sure I will renew when time comes. Time which happens to be today and, yep, I'm as unsure today.

It’s hard enough to find info right now that we may soon is the opportunity to be picky about our information.

People habit of naysaying or belittling opinions they don't agree with makes it even harder to find any trustful info but that's how things work nowadays, that and a seemingly constant drive to try to hurt others through our words.

Regarding Kagi, they have a free test plan, it's limited but it will give you an idea if it's worth anything to you when you want to search for some info you can trust... and it won't matter what I can say, or what any other of the persons speaking in this discussion I apparently started by daring say I liked to use a paid-for service to do my searches. Decide by yourself, that's all you need to get a trustworthy opinion :)

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 14 points 2 days ago

Well, Debian has a 32-bit ISO, and since Ubuntu is based on Debian you may consider giving it a try?

https://www.debian.org/distrib/

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 6 points 3 days ago

True your two remarks.

And we also have a few very questionable representatives/candidate to whatever elections around here, but so far none that has managed to get away from a failed coup at the previous election — sorry, it was unintentional but I may have hinted at the candidate I was surprised was still able to run tor presidency ;)

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 5 points 3 days ago

Maybe I was a little bit sarcastic?

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 52 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Non US citizens, what's the weirdest thing about USA elections, compared to elections in your country?

I will probably get downvoted to oblivion for that but here it is: that one of your candidate was not put in jail already and is still legally able to run for presidency (note that I did not name said candidate, I would not want to influence US voters ;)

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 5 points 3 days ago

I was able to start doing my long daily walks every single day of the week again, after way too many weeks (months) being stuck at home with a wounded foot.

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

My spouse and I don't do much gifts and we also ask people around us to not give us anything either, be it for Xmas, birthdays or whatever.

We have been doing that for many years, as a way to 1) reduce the amount of waste we generate and 2) as a way to, well, spend more time with the people we care about, instead of just spending some money on buying them always new stuff — something both my parents were doing with me back when I was a kid, more busy with their own lives than with raising me. I had plenty toys and even money as a kid but not much in terms of a family to spend time with. They regretted it a lot later in life, but t was too late. So, I was very young when I decided I'd rather not do the same mistake they did.

When I do make a gift (it happens :p), I try to favour something that is durable and useful to the person. Edit: if they do not let me know what they want, I will go for:

Books. Comics, fiction, essays, poetry,... they're all great choice.

If they have any interest in making visual arts, I will probably go for a small box of watercolour paints plus some decent watercolor paper (paper is the real important thing in watercolor, way more than anything else), and a brush. I would also chose that for a kid btw (but would pick something more suited to them (some 'real' paint can be very toxic) as I have yet to meet a single child that doesn't like to paint and sketch. Even teens do like that, the moment they stop putting on their usual rebellious act, they too will get a blast of sketching and painting.

Another thing I would consider, even more so if it's for a teen/YA, is a nice journal/diary and a fountain pen with some ink whose color I know they might appreciate — the fountain pen in itself is such a unique writing experience that it may help the person make it into a habit to keep their journal.

As a side note: fountain pens are often associated with expensive luxury brands but there is no need at all to spend money on fancy & expensive stuff to get a very good fountain pen that will last for years. Among my all-time favorites are the Lamy Safari, I have been using some of them for many decades already and they still work perfectly today, and they cost something like 25€. Others are even cheaper (like the Platinum Preppy, around 6€) but maybe they don't look as nice as a Lamy Safari, which may matter for a gift ;)

Edit: typos.

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