That tracks with some human social groups I have met or been welcomed into.
There's usually one or two guys who are willing to play the "big scary" when necessary to get rid of creeps. The rest of the time they're usually the chill ones whose couch anyone can crash on.
I guess that is a kind of leadership, in itself.
But they usually aren't the one who decides which theater to go to.
Oh!
As they say, them who laugh lasts, probably needed a minute to think about it. Today, that was me.