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[Update] Came out to my wife!
(lemmy.world)
Congrats girlie! I'm very proud of you and happy to hear you have such a supportive wife!
I came out to my wife (and myself) on the same day back in October and she has been such a great support for me. Including celebrating my first biHRTday with thoughtful gifts last week.
If you're looking for a little advice, my best tip is to stay brutally honest. Both of you need to be honest with each other and make space for each other. Even when it's tough. There have been many times where my wife was struggling with aspects of the grief of losing me as a husband and it was difficult to hear that and know i was hurting her. Just like she gave me space for my breakdowns over rewriting my life and the guilt and shame I felt for how this affects her, my 19mo son, and everyone else in life.
Without those spaces to share and explore ALL emotions and feelings this brings up, we wouldn't have made it as a couple. Now we're closer than ever and although the grief can still get us, we also see all the new things we are gaining.
If you have any questions or want to reach out for any other reason, my DMs are open :) I'm sure I've come across many of the same bumps in the road as you have/will.
Take it a day at a time and remind each other you are committed and love each other. There will be many more conversations ahead of you, but you got this babe!
And again, congrats on finding yourself and sharing it with someone that you love! ❤️❤️