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"Some of the [historic] strategies used by the system to exercise violence are sterilization, incarceration or even murder. These strategies have evolved as the capitalist system has evolved. These strategies arise from the need of capitalism to create and promote the idea of an efficient body, capable of producing maximum economic and social benefit. Since industrialization, what prevailed was the body understood as a source of labor. The efficiency of the body, linked to health standards set by medicine, looked for the body’s functionality. The medical standard defined the expected efficiency of the body, and thereby linked bodily health to economic productivity.

With consumer capitalism, production becomes so consumer-driven, that advertising, visual and aesthetic ideals take precedence. Social success, therefore, gets linked to the physical, and social ascent, will reflect how well your body conforms to aesthetic ideals, to the norm...Medicine under consumer capitalism will be responsible for promoting health linked to the aesthetic field, bodies that resemble the idea of consumer beauty will be considered healthy. Which in turn leads medicine to standardize bodies in order to achieve both health and beauty, creating the ideal of healthy, beautiful, good, slim bodies. Bodies will be adapted to fit this standard, which legitimizes the non-genuine."


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[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Life is just getting too hard. I don't know how much more I can take. I have tried to hold on for the dog's sake but another 10 years of this? I'm in pain every day and it's getting worse with increased migraines due to summer and everyone wearing perfume and crap, it's wafting into the house from outside constantly, my mobility issues getting worse instead of better, my walking will clearly never improve and my left arm gets weaker and more useless all the time, I'm always exhausted and sleepy due to being unable to sleep at night because of my high thyroxine dose, the doctors say I'm at increased risk of another stroke, I'll always be fighting disability claims and appeals to get a pittance, always in debt, and now mutual aid has dried up I can't even get food or other basics I need. I don't even have a single friend in real life because no-one can be bothered with a sick, virtually housebound person who is no fun. Seriously, what is the point of this? I can't even enjoy basic hobbies like reading as I no longer have the mental energy or concentration, I can't even afford to rent a film or anything like that. So I don't even have a distraction, lack of sleep means I can't even get a break for a few hours, every day I'm just constantly filled with worries and pain.

[–] Letztertod@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I am thankfully not sick like that anymore all the time but I am mostly housebound as well which is why I don't have many friends either, I can read but I seriously don't have will to enjoy anything and these people ALL the time saying "enjoy this" "enjoy that" like mf I can't I barely have any outlets of joy and I can't take on anything new, you know why? Because I am exhausted.

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I know the feeling, I'm exhausted too. That's why it's so annoying, when I post a mutual aid request I usually get people ignoring the "no unsolicited advice" rule, and writing lists of alternatives for me to try, like different organisations etc. I've already tried them all, found I'm not eligible and each time i write a mutual aid request I have to answer these replies with a list of why their suggestions aren't suitable for me. Even when I've had therapy for depression the so-called therapy is just a list of nonsense to try, which is exhausting and pointless. All the medics who treat me, like the physiotherapist, neurologist, etc insist on me keeping detailed diaries of my daily condition, almost daily medical appointments, regularly fighting disability claims, daily worries and struggles to get the basic things I need, I can just never rest. You'd think someone with cancer and recovering from a stroke could just be allowed to rest, but no. There can be no rest, ever.

[–] Letztertod@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

People love to give unsolicited advice to people they think below them, like if you can't help move the fuck on, yes we tried to learn maths, we tried to go to college, we tried to have a small job, we tried to talk to ngos, many of us have hit rock bottom and many of us are exhausted because of trying to avoid rock bottom and rest are barely holding on. Leave us alone. I sometimes want to write a disability separatist manifesto, I might post one in bad posting as a joke

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[–] UmbraVivi@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Driving lessons are messing me up. There's too much happening around me and too much to pay attention to. I really don't like it. Would much rather rely on public transit but that's not an option where I live :)))))

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[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Just a heads up, I won't be as active this week due to the 'holiday' and stuff going on irl. Hang in there, loves, we'll get through another week before you know it cuddle

[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

doctor told me to try going outside more

okay man, never thought of that one before

[–] Keld@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Have you tried a positive attitude, getting a hobby or getting some exercise wowee

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[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

It's truly amazing how even leftists often justify the mistreatment and killing of the disabled. Literally everyone hates us. I've had some able-bodied person on lemmy arguing against everything I say about the treatment of the disabled, basically telling me I'm wrong, everyone cares for us and we aren't treated badly. I mentioned how, during covid in the UK, the NHS was getting rid of disabled people by refusing them treatment when they caught covid. A lemmy user said this is fine, it's just triage. But that was NOT triage. Triage is saying "This person is having a heart attack, so he'll get treated before the person who has a twisted ankle." What the UK was saying during covid is: "this person with covid is disabled, so we just won't treat them at all, and let them die." Triage is treating the people with the most urgent medical need first. It's not saying "This person's life is less valuable and more of a burden to society so we won't treat them at all." That is actually eugenics. And that's what happened in the UK during covid. Do Not Resuscitate notices were placed on the medical files of many people with Down’s syndrome, autism and learning disabilities who were otherwise healthy before contracting the virus. That's not triage, that is a choice to get rid of people considered useless eaters.

He said malice towards the disabled does not exist. When I gave examples of disabled people being discriminated against throughout history, he said there were other times and places where we weren't treated so badly so "why only choose those examples?" Imagine if a black person spoke of their experiences of racism and someone just responded by giving examples of all the times they thought black people had been treated well.

Whenever I see leftists talking about how things are getting better, and one day we will succeed and things will be good for everyone, I just totally disagree. When even so many of our own comrades deny our experiences, justify us being left to die because our lives aren't as valuable as able-bodied lives, and argue that we're being treated just fine, I see there is no real hope.

https://inews.co.uk/news/politics/thousands-of-disabled-people-died-after-covid-treatment-withheld-inquiry-to-probe-2970333

Some quotes from the article:

many perfectly healthy individuals received letters from their GPs recommending they think carefully about whether they would want resuscitation if they went into hospital or would even want to be treated in hospital at all, should they get Covid-19.” Specialist nurses told Mencap that DNARs, also called DNACPRs, were “constantly” being put in place for people with learning disabilities “often inappropriately” and they were challenging them daily. DNACPR stands for Do Not Attempt Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation. Denying a person potentially life-saving treatment based on their learning disability is an act of discrimination and unlawful.

Mencap saw DNACPRs placed on medical files of people with a learning disability that were otherwise healthy, without their full understanding and/or consent.

Six out of 10 people who died from Covid between March and July 2020 were disabled, according to the Office for National Statistics (ONS).

In one such case 56-year-old Susan Sullivan, who had Down’s syndrome, was declined admission to intensive care (ICU) despite being seriously ill with Covid at Barnet Hospital in March 2020. She was also given a DNAR notice despite the express wish of her mother that she should be resuscitated if necessary, and she was not seen by a consultant for 20 hours. She died on a general ward 28 hours after being admitted.

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[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I hate med testing! Let me just be disabled and incurable, I don't want to test increasingly more side effect inducing medicine anymore!!!!

[–] Keld@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

It sucks so hard. Going through "withdrawal" and having new side effects at the same time.

[–] Keld@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Cherries are ripe. Is this too early for cherries to be ripe? Not gonna worry about that, I'm gonna eat my body weight in cherries

[–] Keld@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

help I ate my body weight in cherries

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[–] Keld@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's summer again. I haven't drawn since last summer. I should try again, I will master the stick figure by september doggirl-thumbsup

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[–] roux@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Ended up taking a mental health day/vto today. Woke up with some kind of anxiety shit that was making me feel physically ill. Kinda wish we lived in a society that allowed for days off of work without feeling guilt and worrying about next week's paycheck.

[–] gingerbrat@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Know that you deserve the day off because you needed it. At least for today, tell capitalism to suck it up, it's not relevant right now. Hope you'll feel better soon roux cuddle

[–] roux@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago (3 children)

My main concern is that I've only put in like 28 hours a week for the last few weeks. My money situation is less than desirable.

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[–] Letztertod@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Feels weird, I got good food I love but I feel like an old pillow, I want to confront some people but its impossible. You know how you feel minority stress? Yea I understand it now, these basic level thinking of people that they never, I was listening to an explicitly communist podcast but one of the hosts went "I was using cream to make my skin beautiful but I realized oh no capitalism has commodified this good desire of mine and other" like you fuck what's good about making your skin beautiful? You wanna do it just go ahead and do it, far more important things are commodified like a fucking wheelchair you stupid fuck. What people consider virtuous matters because why is being fit kore virtuous? Why is beauty virtuous? What's beauty? What's health?

[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Well, beautiful people get more help and tend to be more successful in life so I guess it can improve your circumstances. We live in a very shallow world unfortunately.

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[–] thatsnomayo@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Just heard life expectancy for non-cognitively disabling (if anyone takes issue with this terminology feel free to specify something better as it feels off although I have seen it used a lot to distinguish between people with severe genetic disorders that include autism (RIP my cousin) & the more manageable kind) autism is literally 16 years. This cannot possibly be true & I'm asking you before checking as I do not consider my own brain among my specialities, & I don't want to believe it. True?

This is called task delegation & it's just one of my many, powerful social skills. Thank you!

[–] thatsnomayo@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago

*LOWER by 16 years 😭 not quite that bad

[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

It's true but mostly due to factors like suicide and poverty rather than it being a genetic thing

[–] thatsnomayo@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That makes perfect sense but I would have spitballed, idk, six years, not that it matters because I have no basis in the first place. That's kind of my problem though, been subjected to the discourse for years, it's just completely rotten & split between something indescribably annoying + mostly harmless & Nazis who have a fascination with it akin to the eugenics + philosemitism white supremacy DLC. Never heard them bring this shit up! Or the stomach issues! It's all about interiority without substance, giving people the wrong directions for their social lives & alternately flattering/beating them down

[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

gabapentin does nothing for me but give me diarrhea this some bullshit

[–] thatsnomayo@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Hmmm I should ask if they meant gabapentin abuse actually, in which case I rescind my recommendation. I find it very funny as the only experience I have with the US psychiatric system is getting sent to a psych by a relative (landlord tried to ruin my life & I was all freaked, not important rn) who works in medicine & having them immediately try to prescribe it to me without any real info to work with, which really freaked me out. I guess maybe I should have taken them up on the flagrant pill-pushing

What ACTUALLY works and makes your life better is tianeptine but you guys turned it into gas station dick pills when it was unregulated so noe it's banned. People got serotonin syndrome or some shit because they thought it would be no worse than their 1000mg caffeine habit. Bad call

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[–] userse31@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago (4 children)

You know, I wonder how well a potato peeler would do against human skin.

Someone should take the people who celebrate the US settler colonial state on the fourth of July and try skinning them alive with one. Would be valuable scientific work!

[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Do me a favor and either edit this under a spoiler tag or redact it entirely, it's a bit too graphic and can fall under rule 3 of the CoC. If you spoiler it please CW for gore/violence.

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[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

On top of everything else now, the stove in this house stopped working a few days ago. We can't cook anything. On Thursday someone is meant to be coming to look at it but who knows how much a repair will cost or if my landlady can pay? If not, I am dreading having to make another mutual aid post so soon, I always feel like people will think I'm taking the piss if I ask for too much help. We only have a microwave working right now, which means food is even more expensive now as I can only get things that need to be microwaved, like ready meals, or things that are already prepared and ready to eat like rotisserie food or pre-made sandwiches.

[–] Letztertod@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago (6 children)

I have an idea that can work for short time like a month or so in long term will be difficult, you can ask someone, a neighbour or someone you know if you can cook there. Then you can cook a huge batch of beans, freeze them in ice tray and whenever you want food you put one in the oven. If you have electric rice cooker then you can use that for warm steamed rice otherwise you can freeze rice as well. Beans are quite nutritious so they'll keep you full for a whole meal on their own if you can eat them with a salad and yogurt. I hope it isn't anything major and your stove gets fixed soon.

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[–] edie@lemmy.encryptionin.space 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Now, sure, I have 7 projects already I should work on... but I could start a new one.


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[–] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago

8 projects sounds like a nice round number

So annoyed. I got my most recent prescription filled, and both large bags filled with many items, every single item REEKS of perfume. Massive migraine trigger.

[–] Keld@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] userse31@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I want to drop the Quetiapine/Guanfacine.

Namely: The potential chronic side effects. I'm not interested in the possibility of my tongue constantly "dancing" and all that.

There's also the bit where I got put on it because I had a blow out with my family which fundamentally boiled down to my mom not listening to me.

Also I hate the thing with the munchies, and the weird drowsiness, the crap where it causes my throat to be sore and my sinuses to temporarily swell..... Yeah.

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[–] Keld@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (5 children)

Can you make a vegan bearnaise aioli for a sandwich? Probably. Can I though? We shall see today

[–] Keld@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

It was possble and even edible.

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[–] DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I was looking through my dream diary and I found a dream I had a few months ago that I'd forgotten about:

I dreamt I was shopping in a supermarket when I started having an allergic reaction. I knew I needed to take an antihistamine tablet, but I didn't have any on me. There were some for sale in the shop, I took a packet, but the queues for the tills were so insanely long I knew I didn't have time to wait to pay for them. I asked a member of staff if I could open the packet now and pay afterwards and she said no.

My allergic reaction got worse and worse, so bad I ended up on the floor, suffocating. I begged all the shop staff to just let me open the packet now, pointing out how long the queue was but they all angrily said no. Rachel Reeves, the UK government minister who is always trying to stop disabled people from getting benefits, appeared as a member of staff. She was annoyed by the wheezing and gasping sounds I was making, and leaned down towards me, her face right in front of mine and screamed "SHUT UUUUUP!" Then walked off, leaving me in anaphylactic shock on the floor. I was clearly dying and everyone was just annoyed with me for being a nuisance, and tried to stop me from getting help.

I think it was a metaphor for being disabled/ill in the UK, and the government and society at large trying to stop us from accessing help.

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