Attention requests. If I hat to juggle three or more things that require my attention I start having urges to pummel them to fine dust. Doesn't matter if they are my kids, co-workers, or even just machines.
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Strangers touching me, UGH
Overhead lights Showers That tingy sound a lot of hairdryers have Really repetitive sounds Babies wailing, I can handle crying but when they really get going I feel like I need to crawl out of my skin
Happened in a train. Toddler was really putting it on and everyone knew. I felt like going up to the toddler and saying something, but thankfully one of the parents snapped and started hitting their kid. I sat down and resumed my journey content
I'm not one to advocate for physical violence against children, usually. However, some children, at some point, need a demonstration of what happens when you push a person too far.
Edit: Also worth noting, it's clear when one of those children never got that demonstration, never got that attitude correction, and grew up into an adult.
I grew up with someone at school who literally did not understand empathy, happily stole from his classmates, but knew how to apologise with fake sincerity when caught.
His parents didn't seem like bad people, but people who had tried both positive and negative reinforcement and it just didn't take.
I think he learned early on in life that he could do bad things to good people, and those good people would forgive him again and again. His friends learned to distance themselves, but his family? Oh gosh, what could they even do
They're so loud🙉
During a bad summer, living in a shitty thin caravan park permanent thing, I was stuck with an old portable A/C unit.
At some point, one of the pump rotors went out of alignment and made a horrible buzzing, grinding sound. I was already stressed out as fuck from the heat, and the noise drove me to actual insanity and tears.
And my fucking shitbag family refused to help fix it.
I very nearly smashed the whole thing to pieces trying to get the grinding to stop.
Noise is my trigger, clearly.
Phone calls. The combination of audio compression, noise, and microphone/speaker quality make it extremely frustrating to have phone conversations.
I didn't mind phone calls about 5 years ago when people would talk into an ear piece, but nowadays people talk to an open room with loudspeaker on and their poor mic is doing overtime trying to resolve the garbled mess. When I talk with my cousin, it's like they're either drowning or going through a roller coaster
Sound - as we are coming into party season. Some techno music was playing all night, the heartbeat-raising kind that travels through the granite, but I was not 100% sure if it also could be a combine harvester working at night, or even my fridge playing up, or a mix of all of these. So I had to listen to the sounds to figure out what they were, all night, and it kept me busy and annoyed. I'm afraid if I don't get my lunchtime nap today I'll throw myself a toddler tantrum later.
Light is awful but I can close my eyes at least.
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N o t i f i c a t i o n s .
My phone going ping because someone outside of work wants something. Slack going ping because someone at work wants something. Windows going ding because of some bullshit and I'm not allowed to use Linux for work. Some other thing going ping in the distance because it's not connected to the internet, or it is connected to the internet and has an update.
Why did we build this world for ourselves
When your walking down the street and you hear a chime of security cameras whistling as you to try and get you to look directly into all of them drives me into a blind rage
holy shit my neighborhood is littered with that kind of cameras and they drive me insane every time i go cycling
I'm sorry, what?
Where do you live, that they've sunk that low?!
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Lyrics in songs while trying to talk to someone or read something. Have to turn the music down or off. Maybe has to do with English being my second language, but I can process only one stream of audio information at once.
Native english speaker here and I can't hear just one stream. I hear them all at once. I regularly piss people off by not understanding them in a crowded room or being in a car with a lot of road noise.
I go feral with the lawnmowers start up in the neighborhood. Im also near a small airport, the planes are bad but when The black hawks and shinooks are out doing drills is the worst cuz they just circle and circle until I feel insane.
sometimes, you get inccenant plane take offs, lawnmowers, highway traffic, and dogs barking all at the same time. I like being outside but holy fuck
Depending on how overt you want to be, ear defenders or "concert earplugs" might be helpful to you.
The concert plugs are designed to just take everything down a few notches but leave vocal range alone where possible, same as ear defenders in all honesty.
Means you can still hear people, birds and animals, but takes the amplitude out of everything else, making the soundscape far more tolerable.
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Road noise; mostly just the constant tyre sound of a busy street. I hate it.
I especially hate extremely loud emotional support vehicles, but those are a passing annoyance compared to the near constant wirr of tyres on dirty asphalt.
Smells. #1 trigger.
Also how i realised i was asd. Turns out neurotypicals don't get angered by smells
Smells is like an opposite trigger for me! With some very strong exceptions, I’m extremely smell… oriented? Anything from “Amazing” to just “interesting”. Some smells trigger a flight response though, and my brain says I gotta get away ASAP. Fertilizer/doodoo/stomach acid/most rot/ammonia/the kitchen drain trap goo after they haven’t been cleaned for a long time/mold make me panic a little and I gotta get away from it.
That's the "revulsion reflex", it's a "normal" urge. Useful in evolutionary terms, it instinctively keeps us away from disease vectors. It sounds like yours is... "Well developed" should we say? 💛
The garbage having a strong smell makes me get so angry and then husband has to take the garbage out early which annoys him mildly.
Stupid food having a scent after throw it away!!
Separating the compostables out pretty much eliminates smells. If you aren't doing that already. Then it's just a tiny bag of organics every couple days.
Air blowing over my skin is the worst.
Bright lights are bad, but they're nothing compared to having a fan actively moving air across me. I can feel every bit of turbulence and it's so distracting that it makes me want to stab something or tear my own skin off.
Now that it's Summer everyone and their mother at work wants to have a personal fan on their desk or use a shop fan on the floor to keep cool and when I have to work with them it's torture.
I'd rather be hot and just drink more water.
Whew. For me it's the opposite. If it's hot and there's no air moving, I feel like I'm in a tomb.
It’s ok if you’re really hot.
It’s ok if it’s ambient air moving.
But any other time something blowing directly on you? Nope.
the neighbor's incredibly loud music at all hours of the day and night, more specifically-the subwoofers thumping. it just penetrates your very being and there's no earplugs or noise-cancelling headphones or white noise machines to help with that.
CounterBass, take a subwoofer and an audio track of randomly scattered bass throbs. Will ruin their listening experience.
The loud rumbling of vehicles (typically trucks and larger), the loud booming of a car blasting their music, and power tools like hacks-all, band saws, table saws...
I get irrationally frightened, like I can only shrink down and cover until it's over.
But for irrationally irritated? Other's sadness and frustration. I dont know what's wrong, and I cant fix it. Cat screaming uncontrollably, people "in a mood", crying children that won't stop.
I then get frustrated. "Why won't you eat?" "MEOW!!!!!!"
The sound of children. I absolutely detest hearing those banshee wails.
not me. not a problem here. even a toddler with a tantrum in the grocery store -- the noise doesn't bother me... it's the horrible 'parenting' from their 'adult' that often accompanies it that does.
This. As a non-smoker, I started purposefully seeking cafés where smoking is allowed cause that would mean no small children around
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Guls screeching. Makes me gag. Also causes big emotional rage.
Gul Dukat?
I can think of worse people on DS9.
I love dogs, even had one growing up. But my neighbor has these Lapphunds (he got them for his kid but the kid moved away yeeaars ago and left the dogs with the dad) and he can't handle them. No training, leaves them in the summer heat, don't take them for walks, keeps them loose so they yap and even try to bite people walking by. Not joking, I have almost gotten bitten once and they attacked my late-dog multiple times as well as my friends coming to my house. And those dogs yap constantly, all the time they're outside which is most of the day. Just this constant whining, screaming, howling, yapping and barking. He has told me that he can't get them to behave. Yeah, I'm aware. But they're getting old now so maybe max 3 years and it will be quiet here again..
Honestly, sometimes lamps annoy me more then an over head light. Lamps are normal about eye level, so they shine directly into my eyes more often. Where as over head light it on the roof, were I don't normally look.
And then there is the issue of actually lighting the room well enough for me to see. Sometimes lamps aren't enough and I can't see what I am doing well enough. Building legos for example. It super hard to see what color piece I am being told to use when the lighting to too dim/far away/too warm. But my ND partner hate over head lights. So I suffer (hyperbolic)
I had a long call with some old friends the other day and was describing how I've been feeling unusually down for the last year or so without knowing why... and they said, hmm, does this have anything to do with how our entire country feels badly right now? And that was my light bulb moment. Not sure why that wasn't obvious to me, but I guess that's what friends are for.
That is somewhat scapegoating your feelings. Yes things are bad and expensive, but there should be a little circle of influence in your life where you feel you can do positive things for yourself and others.
I appreciate you, and you're right. But it was also helpful to realize that it wasn't just something inside me causing the discombobulation... It helps me see more clearly what i can work on.
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