Do people in relationships actually talk about useless shit all day??
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We definitely do a lot of gossip.
Okay, so here's the thing. My wife and I have been doing this to each other for nearly 20 years. She's a philosophy major. I'm a math major. This was probably one of our first big arguments. Any time either one of us stumble on a proof or a study or a tangential bit of theory or semi-relevant meme, we will immediately reignite the struggle session over free-will for the rest of the week.
Seems silly to exert so much effort over something that clearly can't exist?
I hate small talk, vehemently opposed to it... been married over 15 years...
When it is someone you truly love and cherish... even the most mundane things come with a sense of beauty and wonder, because it's them. Their thoughts, their opinions, their take on whatever applies the meaning. My wife and I can talk about the rain and the trees and the bugs and the birds for hours, for no other reason than it gives us a chance to be together.
Looking at it the way the post does... you're missing the forest because of all the trees.
I love the talks with my life partner about the inner depth of the universe and the emptiness beyond. I hate when he doesn't listen to me about something that I know is a good insight. I also hate when he outright shows coldness. I do that sometimes. I understand we are so good for each other for we are good archetypes that fit together. He doesn't do small talk sometimes, and he lies about the stupidest things to cut small talk to nothing. But I love him. He's special, and I'm just happy someone understands my crazy so well.
Now God threatens me with how they ALL, including my life partner set me up. I'm not good enough for anything. What? Grandma? She's ded
So, you think true will exists or what?
I hope so, I'm getting sick of meeting all these fake Wills
"Hi honey, i'm home".
Again. Awesome. Truly never gets old. Can't wait to do this shit for the rest of my fucking life.
How was your day?
"Acknowledged, hun."
I talk about the big of talk when the talking go to flow about the ways this those do go the ways God did intendeder
Are and is get got to car corn go got gain in sniff horn am bat this un.
Don't eat you money or your mom with come through the corn on the other side of Berkeley.
Talking random bullshit with someone you know well is great, performative socially masked pleasantries specifically chosen for their generality, and uncontroversial nature is immensely draining emotionally and mentally.
Dragging my tongue over ice-cold saccharine cream tainted by biter cacao seeds as grainy bits of sand dig into my exposed flesh and the roar of the ocean assaults my tender eardrums.
Every moment at the beach is unspeakable anguish.
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Yes. Works for me.
Yeah actually that sounds pretty good
We're both autistic and therefore both hate small talk. Problem solved.
People think that "i hate small talk" must mean "i want big talk" because they cannot comprehend the idea of just shutting tf up
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hi honey I'm home
such weather we're having huh?
you said it
Peak romance ❤️
Asking my life partner how their day was is not small talk. Asking the same question from the cashier at the grocery checkout is small talk.
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I don't mind having a conversation about stupid bullshit, I love those. But I do hate having a superficial conversation filled with lies and obfuscation about meaningless topics neither of us care about solely for the sake of filling the silence. It's a waste of energy and time.
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