That depression is something that needs a mental effort to get rid of and if you try harder it goes poof!:) Nice fantasy land, no?
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So all this trying harder I've been doing is making me more depressed?
That depends. Did it? I hope that at least it helped to stay afloat.
I'm still here, so there's that.
Good job!:) Hope it gets better!
Depression is a bit of catch-all term. Considering that some forms are immune to certain drugs, but not the other, or that for some kinds therapy works better (or worse) - it is very likely that when we learn more about depression, we will type it like diabetes (depression type 1, type 2 etc).
Thus it is theoretically possible that there is a type of what we currently call depression that can get better with mental effort.
I personally haven't seen it, but I also haven't seen Thailand and it still exists :-)
I agree; the thing that saddens me is how people are blamed for not getting their shit together themselves and not putting enough efforts.
For example my parents were honestly thinking that depression was me being lazy, overreactive or undisciplined, while thinking therapy is unnecessary for something so trivial. Gladly, younger generations are more aware about metal health conditions.
So all in all, I don't want to devalue grit and resilience, but many people absolutely need support and meds, and it's okay.
It'll pass
Relapse is equivalent to failure.
Being “healed” as an end state.
The professionals know what they’re talking about / want the best for you
Normal healthy brains exist.
- The DSM being some kind of authoritative source
- 'Disorder' means something is wrong with me
- Feeling better is an individual effort
“it’s a chemical imbalance”
it’s actually not lol.
That anti-depression drugs actually work to fix the cause of depression, instead of them actually being based on a "let's throw shit at the wall and see if any of it works" philosophy.
The scary thing is: That's how most medication works.
It has a positive effect that's slightly stronger than that of a placebo, we don't know what it really does, but studies showed its side effects aren't too bad (except in some cases where they'll kill you).
It’s all in my head.
That things that are known to help help everyone.
No, there are people with different rules (eg neurodivergent). And they do not only have to fight to keep sane but also fight against wrong help.
Aithority figures act with your health and wellbeing in mind.
some people think depression is a form of sadness.
That eating carbohydrates was required for brain health.
My mom's dietician said that like a month ago. She's not a shill selling protein powder but an accredited professional of some kind.
Dietetics is mostly dogma, unfortunately.
anxiety + immersion = all better!
That you can ignore it and it'll go away.
That anyone actually deeply cares, or to put it more precisely that anyone can care about you more than you do. If you care about yourself less, it only lessens the amount anyone else can care about you.
If someone insists they care for you more than you can yourself, there is something deeply wrong with either their perception or their motives. They are using you to meet their own ends either directly or by feeling better about themselves. In both cases you must escape them quickly.
Once you come to peace with that you either get a lot better or a lot worse very quickly and in either case at least the mental illness part will be over. I'm aware of it but I haven't really come to peace yet. I'll let you know how that goes. Maybe.
I know this is cliche, but it took a long time for me to truly believe that asking for help/going to therapy/trying medication was not a sign of weakness or being "a sissy"