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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

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Instead of asking women, "Are you expecting," we should ask them, "Are you suspecting?" (lemmy.ca)
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[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago (3 children)

You think it's ok to ask a woman if she's expecting?

You never reference a woman's pregnancy until after you have been informed that she is pregnant. If you see a woman and you think she's pregnant and think you should say something about her pregnancy, keep your mouth shut. Staple it shut if you need to, but don't say anything.

Any pregnant woman who wants to talk about her pregnancy will announce it to you. Pregnant women will let you know they are pregnant. You don't have to ask.

This is from a man whose wife got sick, gained weight, and had to put up with idiots asking her if she was expecting. One jackass actually put her hands on her belly to feel the "baby" kick.

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

It can be a social faux pas but people just mean well with that question, they wanna share in your happiness and celebrate you. I learned how it can backfire quite early in life, though, after accidentally complimenting a teacher in the middle of class when she wasn't expecting, she had just gained weight over the summer. 🥲

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

In China, during One Child Policy era, people would make assumptions and snitch on you being pregnant so the authorities can come check if you violating the policy and if you already had a kid, they force abortion on you...

[–] Bluegrass_Addict@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You think it's ok to ask a woman if she's expecting?

yeah... sure. it's also fine to ask someone's weight, age, income, etc... if they don't want to answer, then don't. this applies to all genders.

if you don't want the world to interact with you, don't go out into the world.

don't touch people though.

[–] daannii@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Does anyone ever go around and ask men what their sperm count is or if they can maintain an erection to ejaculate?

So you think Reproductive health questions are apparently fine towards women but inappropriate towards men.

Cause women can just not answer.

Yeah but no one asks men about their reproduction abilities or status.

You see the problem here ?

It's private health information. It's not polite to ask these things.

[–] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Instead of asking women, "Are you expecting," we should ~~ask them, "Are you suspecting?"~~ politely keep our mouths shut because other people's bodies are not our concern.

FTFY

[–] daannii@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

So I'm a chubby woman and when I stand in line at stores I have this bad habit of like having poor posture the longer I stand. With hips coming forward.

Anyway. On multiple occasions now Ive had people talk to me and mention my pregnancy.

I'm like. "I'm fat and have bad posture when I'm standing around. ". I then straighten up and they are embarrassed.

Jesus.

I mean. I don't even look that pregnant when I do it. It's just the posture does push my tummy out a bit. But I can't believe how many people over the years have said something about it.

Like can I just have a nice day without someone accusing me of being irresponsible?

Call me fat. Fine. I am overweight.

But don't you dare say I'm some breeder.

Plus pregnancy is something, in my opinion, that is private. And none of anyone else's business unless the pregnant person wants to tell others.

Like a lot of things can go wrong with pregnancies and just,.. you don't know what that person has going on. Maybe they just got some bad news.

So I'm offended for myself and for pregnant women who should have their health status privacy respected.

Just don't say nothing unless they say it first.

[–] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I would enjoy the hell out of ruining those people's day. I hope you can too.

People must learn to not comment on strangers bodies. And some people only learn from putting their hand right into the fire.

[–] daannii@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I hope they at least think twice before doing it again to someone else

[–] DMCMNFIBFFF@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

  1. "Are you pregnant?"

  2. "Are you pregnant or is your belly fat?"

  3. Say nothing as the question might be too personal.