Until my arm goes numb on the underside...
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It goes under her neck or the pillow to prevent this. Jeez, learn to cuddle. π
I had a terrible ex but this is one thing I miss about her. She was anemic so she was always cold and loved snuggling like this.
extra points if winter
When you amputate your left arm?
Yes, that feeling is called 'oxytocin'.
Human consciousness is more complicated that the constituent neurotransmitters
Ehhh, not really. We also have associations with past events and emotions are a bit culturally mediated, but the neurotransmitters are doing the heavy lifting.
Our emotions are just a chemical system. The subjective experience feels more complicated than just "now i have oxytocin", but lots of things feel different than they really are.
It's an oversimplification.
Isn't there some belief and knowledge that causes your brain to release oxytocin? There are many other neurotransmitters involved here...
Human consciousness is an ongoing process that is produced by an inordinately complicated interplay of neurons and many chemicals and other things and factors...
But yeah, its a ... semi-reasonable simplification to say that the feeling of waking up with a partner you love, are physically and emotionally close to...
Yeah that basically is your body giving you a lot of oxytocin, that produces that kind of content/safe/never want to leave feeling.
Not for me. My partner has to stay on his side of the bed. Iβll build a fortress of pillows and blankets before Iβll allow that kind of encroachment. No going over the neutral zone.
I still prefer heβs at least in the bed though. Sucks when one of us is sick and sleeps in the guest bed.
My partner is like this too. Seperate sheets and blankets. She puts up with a bit of my cuddle-lust, but you can tell she doesn't like it. She has mentioned a pillow wall. But she finds sleeping seperately to be just devestating, and even during our worst arguments she wants me in the same bed.
Yeah, in all reality, I donβt mind a little bit of cuddling, but when it comes to actually sleeping, he gets banished to his side of the bed.
I already sweat when I get too hot while sleeping, which is funny because I am always cold. Extra body heat is guaranteed to make me sweat and I havenβt even hit the hot flash stage of perimenopause yet.
I hope you guys find the right balance to keep you both happy π
Again, that is all pretty much spot on our situation. We have elaborate heat-management rituals involving the cat, a fan, and multiple layers of blankets being tucked/shucked as needed. She is also not yet into the hot flashes.
I've long presumed this is one of those PCOS-is-ridiculously-understudied issues.
And yes, thank you! We're both often surprised at our ability to come to mutually supportive solutions - just like real grownups! π
Which one?
Both
Sorry, little spoon was the correct answer
To each their own. I rather enjoy being big spoon.
Little spoons of the world thank you for your service
I miss that so much. Married someone who can't stand having me in the bed so I sleep on the couch.