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Am I being used? (lemmy.eco.br)

submitted 1 day ago by blackwitch@lemmy.eco.br to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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So my boyfriend "Avery" (M16) is a stoner and an alcoholic. He was pretty sweet at first, prioritizing me over alcohol and drugs and being pretty obviously infatuated with me. Then gradually he left me on read day by day. First, his excuse was TV. Then drinking and drugs. Then gaming.

Now, it's his damn boyfriend. He doesn't even care about me, evidently.

Avery is dating this dude Alex, and at first they were friends who regularly called. That's why he was "too busy" to hang out with me.

"He said he’d love to call sometime and I’m sure he loves us equally, but he calls Alex for hours a day, for like 5-12 hours, and barely acknowledges my texts, he just reads them. In fact, he asked me to hang out with him but that was because he was bored that Alex wouldn’t be coming over."

"They sleep on calls all the time too at night and I’m trying not to care but I’m sad because he spends more time with Alex than me. I wanna sleep over at his house sometime and do all the stuff they do but he can’t because he’s always busy with Alex." is what I posted before.

It basically sums up my post from before. Now, I asked him if we could hang out actually and do stuff together and if he could love me like he used to and he said "Honestly, I don't really know" and that he doesn't wanna hang out with me, only Alex.

I hate that guy so much right now and he pisses me off, "honestly". That's my honest opinion.

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[–] breezeblock@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

No addict will ever choose anything except their addiction. You can’t date an addict while they are addicted.

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you have to ask, I think you already know your answer. Seems like you should be annoyed with Avery rather than Alex, but maybe I’m just misunderstanding what you mean. I admittedly had to reread some of this to realize you’re talking about a poly situation. As someone who is (dear god I hope given your boyfriend’s age) more than twice as old as you, giving your energy to people that don’t reciprocate in the hopes that they’ll have a sudden change of heart is just going to leave you empty and bitter.

[–] blackwitch@lemmy.eco.br 1 points 1 day ago

Thanks. I overreacted but im upset with avery not alex

[–] atheqtpie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

It sounds like it. He doesn't sound like a nice guy, I'm sorry :(