I'm willing to bet that you're not the first of their patients to do so. It feels bad but you're describing a common effect of depression so, silver lining, now you've got a possible topic to start with once the appointment is rescheduled.
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It took me six different times to get to an appointment for my ADHD. They're used to it. Don't feel bad about it.
Hell, if you show up on the first try that's probably abnormal.
Don't sweat it. Set yourself up for next time with a better alarm clock, boo. Get something like sleep as Android that requires you to put some effort in to turn it off (CAPTCHA )
My first ever appointment for depression I was given the wrong address and ended up in an unfamiliar area of the city at a location that looked like it had been abandoned. The office didn't pick up my repeated calls. Then I had to drive through rush hour traffic home, my 35 minute drive there was 1 hour 30 minutes back, alone with my thoughts. Questioning my sanity.
They callously tried to charge me a no show fee as well.
I let it set me back years. I still count my making it home as a minor miracle. Not sure what point I'm trying to convey, for some reason this post made me relive that experience.
I guess just don't give up. Call, explain, hopefully they can fit you in.
Hopefully you get your foot through the door. That way you can see what it's about before giving up. In fact, if you can keep pushing "give up" one step further you'll get to see just a bit further. It can be not so easy, that I understand. Sometimes it's a front desk person you have to get by, and many times it's your own will. I hope it improves for you!
When I finally decided to seek a diagnosis I would frequently be waiting so long to be seen that the feeling passed and I'd cancel the appointment because I 'no longer needed it' -- and then I was worried that when I do go I'd be on a high again and not show any symptoms of my lows, so not be diagnosed. This wasn't the reality thankfully.
Given the subject I'm sure they'll be forgiving and let you reschedule!
I just called them and the automated system said wait time is 30 minutes... ๐ซ
Yea idk I kinda don't feel like waiting for 30 minutes on the phone... idk maybe I'll call back later... or tomorrow... or maybe next week... or maybe never...
I hate my life.
I wish my parents would just call for me but mom is so sick of my depression she's like "you're an adult now, go call them yourself you lazy/cowardly shit"
Do they have a site where you can log in and message your healthcare provider(s)? Might be able to get through to them that way without suffering through half an hour of hold music.