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This morning, my entire family either switched or said they already had a Signal account. Now we have a family Signal chat.

I expected resistance, not compliance! I'm very happy.

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[–] BurgerBaron@piefed.social 70 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I was getting my family on board and then a week later Signal dropped SMS/MMS support and my family uninstalled Signal. Frustrating.

Maybe I can try again with...everything going on.

[–] dogs0n@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

rip. That is probably the biggest feature that was taken away and that I miss from any app ever

[–] BurgerBaron@piefed.social 2 points 1 month ago

I was loudly opposed on their repo but ideology won over practicality. I think it severely hampered their adoption rates letting perfect be the enemy of good enough.

I get their reasoning but I think it was quite obvious when I was talking to someone via secure Signal infra vs SMS.

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[–] bootstrap@lemmy.dbzer0.com 42 points 1 month ago (5 children)

I have a weird switcheroo situation. My family came across no worries but my friend group, nobody switched.

I deleted all the meta bullshit a while back and went 100% signal, let everyone know where they could reach me and so far 1 person has contacted me via signal (in about 6 months). Feels kind of shit tbh.

Still cant understand why people stay on those platforms full of ads and horrible UI when soooo much better alternatives are out there.

[–] 3rdXthecharm@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I gave up facebook a year or so after college. Told my friends, made sure the group chat had my number, same situation.

That feeling sucks, still a little bitter and bothered by it almost a decade later. I try to give them the benefit of the doubt and say that they're just busy and the average person is a cognitive miser.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

This is exactly what I expected when I suggested it and precisely why I'm so pleasantly surprised. I'm sorry for your experience.

[–] turboSnail@piefed.europe.pub 10 points 1 month ago

Most people don't think about these things. When it becomes a value based decision, it's pretty clear what's going to happen. As long as you don't know or care about what Meta is doing, there are no values or emotions involved in the decision. That's when using the worst platforms becomes a purely a practical choice.

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[–] aloofPenguin@piefed.world 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

My family used to use Signal after the whole WhatsApp fiasco a few years ago. Everything was going fine until we switched back because of a family emergency. I suggested switching back several times after that, but to no avail :(

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago

My condolences.

[–] 87Six@lemmy.zip 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Where the fuck do you live, heaven???

Fucking adopt me

If I even dare suggest this, my family disowns me

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I'll reiterate that this was very much not the expected result.

[–] TheGiantKorean@lemmy.today 7 points 1 month ago

I've talked friends and family into using Signal. Some of my family still insists on using FB Messenger though.

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 7 points 1 month ago (3 children)

One of my friends still uses google hangout to talk with me. I'm the only person they talk to on there. I ask them every so often to switch to signal. It's, like, trivial to install. it's free. They won't do it. It's too much.

I do not understand ADHD depression brain and I want to be kind but I'm also like "just give me your phone I'll do it".

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Getting used to a new UI can be stressful and taxing to the audhd brain. If it's your own choice that stress and effort can be fun, it can be an adventure. But if you perceive the world around you to be forcing you into it, it feels like being attacked. Other people forcing you into an exhausting situation. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pathological_demand_avoidance

I had a meltdown for most of a day the last time I updated Discord on My phone.

[–] ikka@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 1 month ago

I just look at this picture and then all is well

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[–] silver@das-eck.haus 5 points 1 month ago

Everyone in my fiancée's family is installing signal except her brother. I guess he will miss out on planning (or I will)

[–] Xell22@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago
[–] MidsizedSedan@lemmy.world 3 points 4 weeks ago

Ive been chatting to my brother and sister on signal for I thinkn3 years now. TODAY Sister asks me "is Brother on Signal too?" (They've been chatting on apple iMessage-text thing this whole time. Not knowing they are BOTH on signal, just not chatting through there)

Mom is starting to chat to me on signal, but its probably a 30% success rate at best. (Mom also on iPhone)

One day, apple will change their Terms and Conditions enough to kick my family enough to leave, but it is not this day...

[–] DarkFuture@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

My friends group and I switched years ago. Had things we weren't comfortable saying with fascists in control of the government the first time around.

We have the messages set to auto-delete after 1 week. We've been debating changing that to 24 hours cuz this fascist train ain't slowing down.

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[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Did you drug them?

HAha, nice work man. My friends are deathly afraid of anything internet that isnt corpo net. They wont touch the fediverse or signal with a 49.5ft pole.

Did you give them reasons? People I know willingly give google and m$ all their data without a blink and dont care. Why would they do something inconvenient ?

I do feel like just saying im leaving fb messenger, if you want to talk get signal. But then ill just be left out.

[–] aloofPenguin@piefed.world 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

My parents are pretty much the same. Trying to get my dad to trust and/or use KMyMoney (or GNUCash for that matter) is like an uphill battle.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Did you give them reasons?

There's one person in the group chat who will often rant, especially about political topics. That person actually was already on Signal but also participated in the group chat.

After one rant in the group chat, I said that we should all switch to Signal, as it's more privacy respecting and therefore a safer place to have opinions.

Apparently that was enough.

[–] Reygle@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

That's fantastic, even friends my own age mostly refuse.

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