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First off, punch fascists, don’t ignore them.
But a not insignificant part of why we are where we are right now is because of information bubbles that are created with social media, compounded by behaviour instead of talking it over in real life, people rage at each other on the internet.
people rage at each other on the internet.
I do not need to accept that behavior.
Or at the very least don't engage. I understand the temptation, and I sometimes can't resist, but generally it's not worth it.
I don't really block much or at all. I'd rather see what they're saying, but I have been online a long time as well, and have a thicker skin. If you are affected by online users to a detrimental degree there's no shame in walking away, ignoring, or blocking.
Look out for yourself.
I only block when I know I am unable to resist the temptation to engage. And usually when I do finally block, I wish I'd done it much sooner.
I'll generally argue with someone I disagree with online, and see if they'll listen to reason. Maybe they'll change their mind, or present new information or a perspective I haven't considered and I'll gain understanding and change my mind.
I only block people who are incapable of arguing in good faith.
After all, what's the point of civic discourse if we're all only talking to people we agree with? It's just preaching to the choir, and creates epistemic bubbles.
Blocking is the key to not being miserable on social media. Its okay to just be here for the memes. I dont block for disagreement, but rather how they act
I dont block for disagreement, but rather how they act
This is the key point, blocking is a tool for curating the experience you get. If you block for disagreement you get an echo chamber, if you block based on behavior you get peace.
Excellent insight, friend :)
True. Since I started using piefed I've been negatively curating my all feed by just blocking everything that is the least bit annoying or not entertaining. It's much better.
You don't owe internet people the ability to spam your feed or subject you to their moronic takes.
Also, like, in general, your interactions with these people mean literally nothing. Wasting time replying to them or trying to one up them or dunk on them does nothing but drag you into the miasma of their meaningless bickering.
I'm a fan of the "downvote and move on" tactic, but it seems to be pretty common sentiment among lemmy mods that this is the opposite of what you should do.
Also, like, in general, your interactions with these people mean literally nothing. Wasting time replying to them or trying to one up them or dunk on them does nothing but drag you into the miasma of their meaningless bickering.
This is something I need to remind myself of every now and then 😌
if you don't like me, please block me.
Are you a fool, a bore or a drama starter?
There are plenty of people I don't like on the web, but who I can talk to in a calm, rational way because while they aren't nice people, they are relatively rational people. They are people you can have reasonable discussions with, even if you entirely disagree with them.
But there are also plenty of people on the web who I've found I just can't talk to because they are not rational. They just...... okay, imagine I am waving my hands in a slightly aggravated manner and going "urgh!" because that's really the only way I can describe trying to interact with them.
The OP (not me - the OP from the post) isn't suggesting you block everyone you encounter. Just those who will not be good for your mental wellbeing.
And I have to say - having encountered quite a lot of people who were not good for my mental wellbeing, I find it hard to disagree with them :)
i have experience and perspective and opinions. when i see people i agree with, i'm less inclined to comment. if i feel i can correct someone or point out a flawed premise, i'm highly inclined to do so. most people don't like having their unspoken beliefs questioned, and that has led, often, to being called a troll or similar.
am i a fool, bore, or drama starter? i suppose that is up to the people i encounter.
my comment wasn't to you but it was for you, and anyone else. most of my comments have no expectation that anyone will respond, i'm just pointing out, as i said, incorrect or flawed statements.
thanks for the reminder! <3
bye
This is a lesson i learnt on Dota. The game has far to many toxic players, or people giving up way too easily. I just started muting anyone the second they give the slightest hint of insulting a teammate. The vibes are so much better now.
I agree with many people ITT that overuse of blocks could create echochambers, however I still think that blocks are an underused feature of social media. These days much online content is not designed for discourse, it is designed for engagement. Rage bait, over sensualisation, even trolls farming frustration for their hit of endorphins. These are the kinds of people (and content outlets in general) which should be blocked.
But to be clear, not everyone who disagrees with you is a troll, or trying to rage bait.
It's called curating your community/feed.
By doing this, you get to shape it based on what you want, if you created an echo chamber, it's because you WANTED an echo chamber.
One of my favorite podcasters (C. Derek Varn) finished his podcasts reminding his listeners to "Protect Your Peace". There are several ways of doing this. This post is one way. Minneapolis is doing it a different way.
This is putting your fingers in your ears and hoping they go away. That doesn't work with these fucks.
If someone walks up to you on the street and stabs you, do you engage them in reasonable conversation or do you run away/have them arrested?
This is the internet version of that - there are some people you talk to, and some people you walk away from.
The Internet would be a better place if we all stopped feeding the trolls with our attention which is now money. Ignore and move on
My user block list on Lemmy is much smaller, and grows at a slower rate, than my list on Reddit.
However, my community block list is growing fast here. Mostly, it's foreign language comms I can't read, though. That, and sportsball, cars, drugs, and games I'll never play.
My block list gains new politics related communities every day
If I like trolling the trolls does that make me part of the problem or part of the solution?
Perhaps both. Does that balance it out?
I try and block all kinds of stuff. The ideal is that if I would be down-voting many things in a community I should just leave them in peace.
me tolerating the most negative person I've met in an online gaming group because they're friends with someone (and idek how)
yeah I needed to hear that
While i can understand the temptation of creating a bubble where every opinion is aligned with my own and everyone is entertaining, i think it's a mistake. Ofc, if it's just a troll, by all means go ahead and block them.
But "bores" are often enough knowledgeable people in some areas, and drama-starters sometimes give an impulse where real discussion can take place. Also, authoritarians of all colors need to be called out, so that the probability of their propaganda taking root is reduced as much as possible.
Your time on this planet is limited. Don’t pass it around on people like mentioned here, ads, big tech-time sinks, influencers (and their inevitable accompanying drama). It is your time, not theirs, not even god’s.
Just fucking don’t.
Yeah, as I've gotten older I no longer harbor right wing politics or talking points. Police apologia? Blocked. Pro capitalist talking points? Go jump in the orphan grinder 5000. Billionaires are smarter, better people? To the salt mines. If you're still arguing against progressive policies and ideals you're not of use arguing, you've already chosen to disregard any evidence to the contrary.
I prefer to let them know that I laugh at their pathetic understanding of the world ... and then block before getting an equally stupid response. Not only will it notify the 0.5% of the fools who are not either trolls or too stupid to understand things the chance to figure out their world view is wrong, but venting is important to maintain one's mental health.
This exactly. If they were blind enough to think this stuff in the first place, no amount of debate is going to fix their TBI. Its about ridiculing their positions, socially shaming them, and revealing that they do not have a platform, and all of this is for the benefit of third party observers. I never argue with the fools, i argue for the lurkers of which there are many.
I'm conflicted on this because if you block enough of people opposed to you, you end up lacking any insight into what they are actually doing.
My own personal mental health has taken a hit because I feel a need to bear witness. And its all... a lot
She's not talking about people with opposing views, she's talking about drama queens, trolls, and all the other louts.
She's right.
Amen. Wise words.
Excellent advice.
And it's often a service for the person you're blocking too: you're saving them from having to see your opinions, which might infuriate them pointlessly.